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★★Becoming An Elder

Women get more beautiful as they grow older. Not less.
Female youth is only prized in modern culture because it doesn't represent as much of a threat spiritually to anyone who is frightened of divine feminine power.
As women grow and mature, they call in stronger forces of sacred feminine wisdom. They vibrate with the creative power of their stories.
They are more of a force to be reckoned with.
They see more, know more, feel more. They put up with a lot less bullshit.
When women are trained into thinking there is something fundamentally wrong with getting older, and are coerced into spending money, energy and power investing in 'slowing the signs of ageing', an enormous vault of divine love is lost.
Just think what would happen if all the women in the world started loving themselves even more with every year that passed.

Perhaps a total revolution would occur.

Author: Yogesh Kumar

Don't Regret Growing Older


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its about everything

Routines help us take care of daily to-dos. Rituals help us take care of ourselves.

I so relate to this right now! :)

Crone Cronicles: 2 minute house magick

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I am not the first person you loved.
You are not the first person I looked at
with a mouthful of forevers. We
have both known loss like the sharp edges
of a knife. We have both lived with lips
more scar tissue than skin. Our love came
unannounced in the middle of the night.
Our love came when we’d given up
on asking love to come. I think
that has to be part
of its miracle.
This is how we heal.
I will kiss you like forgiveness. You
will hold me like I’m hope. Our arms
will bandage and we will press promises
between us like flowers in a book.
I will write sonnets to the salt of sweat
on your skin. I will write novels to the scar
of your nose. I will write a dictionary
of all the words I have used trying
to describe the way it feels to have finally,
finally found you.

And I will not be afraid
of your scars.

I know sometimes
it’s still hard to let me see you
in all your cracked perfection,
but please know:
whether it’s the days you burn
more brilliant than the sun
or the nights you collapse into my lap
your body broken into a thousand questions,
you are the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen.
I will love you when you are a still day.
I will love you when you are a hurricane.

~ Clementine von Radics

What do you know about this woman, based on this picture? What judgements can you make about her? What possible interpretations of  are there?

there came a time in midlife when she grew weary of trying...a crone

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♫Frampton I love enjoying this surrender. It is always beyond my wildest imagination of completion

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Queen of her Realm

She is the Queen of her Realm.

She chooses to expand not decrease.
She stands tall to live fully and fierce.
She finds a seed in each life event.
This seed she will nurture until it fluently grows.

Fields of flowers arising, everywhere she goes.

-Tara Isis Gerris

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"I think midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear:
I’m not screwing around. It’s time. All of this pretending and performing – these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt – has to go.
Your armour is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armour could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy of love and belonging, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever.
Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through you. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen.''
Brené Brown
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The Empowered Woman

The Empowered Woman, she moves through the world
with a sense of confidence and grace.
Her once reckless spirit now tempered by wisdom.
Quietly, yet firmly, she speaks her truth without doubt or hesitation
and the life she leads is of her own creation.

She now understands what it means to live and let live.
How much to ask for herself and how much to give.
She has a strong, yet generous heart.. and the inner beauty she emanates truly sets her apart.

Like the mythical Phoenix, she has risen from the ashes and soared to a new plane of existence, unfettered by the things that once that posed such resistance.

Her senses now heightened, she sees everything so clearly.
She hears the wind rustling through the trees;
beckoning her to live the dreams she holds so dearly.
She feels the softness of her hands and muses at the strength that they possess. Her needs and desires she has learned to express. She has tasted the bitter and savored the sweet fruits of life, overcome adversity and pushed past heartache and strife.

And the one thing she never understood, she now knows to be true, it all begins and ends with You.

—Sonny Carroll

This time belongs to the crone.

She's arriving into the greatest time of her life. Creativity is blossoming, even exploding within her. She's lived a full life, chased her dreams, raised her kids, fulfilled (some at least) her ambitions, had a career, gone through intense relationship lessons and some!

Her life holds furrows of love, pain, joy, suffering, hope, fear, holy anger. Everything now enters her crucible as wisdom. She's done with most stuff that consumed her life. She's never felt more free than now, to listen to her deepest longings. And she's never felt more empowered than now to be all of herself.

You can see her fearlessly living her truth. Her biggest freedom is that she's stepped out of expectations. If something matters to her deeply, she pursues it with passion and prayer. She has no image to safeguard. She has a reservoir of energy like never before.

She's the wise teacher our planet needs now. She's holding vital information.

From elderly, she's becoming the elder.

Sukhvinder Sircar

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"How many years of beauty do I have left?
she asks me.
How many more do you want?
Here. Here is 34. Here is 50.

When you are 80 years old
and your beauty rises in ways
your cells cannot even imagine now
and your wild bones grow luminous and
ripe, having carried the weight
of a passionate life.

When your hair is aflame
with winter
and you have decades of
learning and leaving and loving
sewn into
the corners of your eyes
and your children come home
to find their own history
in your face.

When you know what it feels like to fail
and have gained the
to rise and rise and rise again.

When you can make your tea
on a quiet and ridiculously lonely afternoon
and still have a song in your heart
Queen owl wings beating
beneath the cotton of your sweater.

Because your beauty began there
beneath the sweater and the skin,

This is when I will take you
into my arms and coo
you’ve come so far.

I see you.
Your beauty is breathtaking."

~ Jeannette Encinias

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"She is precious and vital to humanity....
We need to listen to her once again."

We are all learning how powerful we actually are and how to use that innate power to rise above the limited identifications created by our programmed mind. 
Menopause in particular, offers women an important bridge to that power,
The changes at Menopause create a fertile ground for transformation,
It is as if life asks a woman,”are you going to remain stuck in perceiving your life as a victim and perpetuating "self” denial or are you choosing to awaken and claim the Goddess as Crone?”

The awakened Crone knows intuitively and instinctively exactly what she needs to do in order to establish balance within herself, She knows how to create her own fulfillment.

She no longer gives herself away,
She understands that her giving is balanced by her receiving,
So she is gracious but has firm boundaries,

She is not looking for external verification, 
Nor is she needy for attention,
She enjoys her own company
She’s at ease with herself as she is

She recognizes who she is underneath all the surface stuff of the past,
She is empowered by this recognition,
She answers to her own "self"
and makes no apology or excuses for her choices

She’s connected to the source of her own feminine wisdom 
She knows intuitively what medicine to administer to bring forth the light because she can see through the veils and pretenses,

But she has a patience distilled from her own growth through pain, 
A sensitivity that can cut through barriers to reach someone

She believes in positive re-enforcement
In bringing forth the nobility in others
Through their own inspired discipline

She is precious and vital to humanity....
We need to listen to her once again.
© Caroline de lisser

Wise Woman
Wise woman is able to laugh at herself, she has learnt not to take her "ego" self seriously…
She possesses true humility which is not self effacing but derived from integrity and self honesty, she is willing to admit, “I don’t know.” and willing to say "I’m sorry"…
She knows when to persist and She knows when to let go…
Wise woman knows when to speak up and when it is more constructive to be silent...
She understands the fine line between minding her own business and being a force for constructive change…
She does not interfere with the lessons that others need to learn, she does not “save", 
She inspires others to save themselves...
Wise woman understands the perfection of timing, so she is patient… 
She knows when to sow seeds and when to harvest the crop…
She is able to draw boundaries while releasing barriers, she chooses not to build walls, she dismantles existing ones instead…
Wise woman, conserves, sustains and builds, squandering and wastefulness are not her style…
She knows that true receiving is experienced in giving, the too are not separate, she balances the two as one.
Wise woman lives in the moment, she is fully present to what is…
She can release the past and allow the future to take care of itself…
She has beginners mind, her inner child still comes out to play, her self expression is uninhibited and authentic...
She is a sensual being, she takes delight in her own body…
She is just as wiling to receive pleasure as she is to give it.
Wise woman cares for her body, mind and spirit, she recognizes that her wellbeing is dependent on balance, on healthy choices and on surrendering the conflict between what she thinks and how she truly feels.
She doesn't need escape routes because she refrains from building prisons, she knows that her freedom is more important than anything that she feels tempted to cling to.
Wise woman realizes the value of relaxation and stillness, she understands that she needs both in order to tune into her body, heart and soul and be obedient to her true guidance.
Wise woman keeps her heart open, she understands the value of her lessons so she doesn't hold grudges.
She accepts herself fully, so she accepts others as they are...
She embodies her love source and emanates it as a healing transmission to all ...
© Caroline de Lisser

Finally home...

She said I am not aging, I am evolving.

Evolving into the woman I was always meant to be.

Age is just a number, and numbers don’t scare me anymore.

With each passing year she has gained a wealth of knowledge and wisdom, and she has become more loving, compassionate, gentle and patient with herself.

She feeds her body, mind, heart and soul with positivity, hope, encouragement and love.

She celebrates her life and her accomplishments.

A woman becomes even more beautiful with age, because she has learned how to accept who she is, where she has been, and she bravely awaits the future.

She has settled into her life, she is finally home.
~Mary Costanza~

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First become alone. 
First start enjoying yourself. 
First love yourself. 
First become so authentically happy
that if nobody comes it doesn’t matter;
you are full, overflowing. 
If nobody knocks at your door 
it is perfectly okay — 
YOU are not missing.
You are not waiting for somebody to come 
and knock at the door. 
You are at home.
If somebody comes, good, beautiful. 
If nobody comes, 
that too is beautiful and good.
THEN move into relationship.
Now you move like a master, 
not like a beggar. 
Now you move like an emperor, 
not like a beggar. 
And the person who has lived
in his aloneness 
will always be attracted to another person
who is also living his aloneness beautifully, 
because the same attracts the same. 
When two masters meet — 
masters of their being, 
of their aloneness —
happiness is not just added,
it is multiplied.
It becomes a tremendous 
Phenomenon of celebration. 
And they don’t exploit, 
they share. 
They don’t use each other. 
Rather, on the contrary, 
they both become one and 
enjoy the existence that
surrounds them.

Author: Osho

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♫Frampton I love enjoying this surrender. It is always beyond my wildest imagination of completion

‘Women have another option. They can aspire to be wise, not merely nice; to be competent, not merely helpful; to be strong, not merely graceful; to be ambitious for themselves, not merely for themselves in relation to men and children. They can let themselves age naturally and without embarrassment, actively protesting and disobeying the conventions that stem from this society’s double standard about aging. Instead of being girls, girls as long as possible, who then age humiliatingly into middle-aged women, they can become women much earlier – and remain active adults, enjoying the long, erotic career of which women are capable, far longer. Women should allow their faces to show the lives they have lived. Women should tell the truth.’

~Susan Sontag - The Double Standard of Aging (1972)

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I am becoming the woman I've wanted,
grey at the temples,
soft body, delighted,
cracked up by life
with a laugh that's known bitter
but, past it, got better,
knows she's a survivor-
that whatever comes,
she can outlast it.
I am becoming a deep
weathered basket.

I am becoming the woman I've longed for,
the motherly lover
with arms strong and tender,
the growing daughter
who blushes surprises.
I am becoming full moons
and sunrises.

I find her becoming,
this woman I've wanted,
who knows she'll encompass,
who knows she's sufficient,
knows where she's going
and travels with passion.
Who remembers she's precious,
but knows she's not scarce-
who knows she is plenty,
plenty to share.

~ Jayne Relaford Brown

Lets talk CRONE and how she’s dying..

The Crone is a woman who no longer menstruates physically, she is now a fully embodied wise woman. With many moons behind her and the experience she has acquired, she can now turn her attention to being a guide for the young. Being free in her body - no longer worried about pregnancy, pretense or deep fluctuations in hormones, she has come to a serene place of acceptance.. an embodied dance with the rhythms and energetics of life.

I have been guided by grandmothers with silver hair as magnificent as the moonlight for a very long time in my dreams, it has helped me develop a keen appreciation for the Crone, it has allowed me to see aging as an exquisite and delicate gift. It has helped me make healthy choices in the now and embrace with subtle anticipation the day when I too will be a grandmother to the children of our world.

In ancient times and cultures, the Crone was revered. The Crone was consulted for matters of importance and well being of tribes. Children and grown alike would come for advice and storytelling to the skirts of the Crone. The gray hair was looked at as stripes of honor and the wrinkles as badges of courage and experience. When a woman’s blood flow would stop coming it was said she no longer needed it, as she had accumulated the wisdom of the moon enough to embody it and invite it to stay. These wise women understood the importance of death and renewal at such a cellular level they no longer needed to be reminded every month.

In todays culture, the Crone is in great danger of being crushed. In a society where faster, better, younger is the theme and tattooed into our consciousness every day… The elders are very often overlooked and seen as nuisance, annoying, slow, their beauty is smudged over and often shoved into care homes or confined to a bedroom in the house, Google has now usurped the throne of the wise one.

We see Maiden archetype everywhere- the endless pursuit of youth.. From a multibillion dollar market of beauty products to the movie screens.. Everyone wants to be young, plump and fresh. We see the Mother archetype- the caring loving mother and as Lara Owen mentions in her book, although limited- it is even revered in religion.

But the Crone.. where is she?

She is hidden, she is stashed away… all that power hidden in her belly and nowhere to go. She has been pushed to abhor her post menopausal state, as though it is a condemnation rather than a blessing, as if not being able to birth children is now a curse that spills inward into a barren womb.. All that wisdom rejected, unacknowledged, dishonored in exchange for the pursuit of staying young and ‘fertile’ only to be ridiculed and mocked by a society that in paradoxical cruelty repudiates the Crone as well.

No, the Crone cannot expect to be accepted without first accepting herself, knowing that her bones are indeed each day becoming more and more one with the earth...

The silenced Crone cannot demand a place in a society where she too has helped exile this archetype.

This is why we need to speak of Her, the Crone- the holy guide that lives and will one day emerge from you and when it does… you will have a choice: will you let her in and feast on the banquet of your holy life experience or will you shut the door in her face and leave her out to starve in hopes that the maiden and mother, whom have left, will someday come back.

Many times I have wanted to write about the Crone even create for it but I am held back by the misleading belief that I have to be one to speak of it.
‘No more...' my sleeping crone has whispered, ‘you must begin to pave the way for my visit.. planting seeds along the path that may bloom for my homecoming.’

Resting and gestating in me, she is harnessing strength to come and live fully, to guide, to teach, to dance, to remind, to slow me down, to make me softer, to be reflected on my skin and in my gaze when the time comes.

So in the meantime, I will speak of the Crone to our children and to anyone that will hear - I will honor the magnificently wise women I am surrounded by, sisters hiding their beauty behind veils. I will remind them, I will whisper, I will nudge, I will invite….

‘Take off your veil! You are holy sacred wise woman, you are here, you are a message… now is your time to guide!’

~ Anabel Vizcarra ~

Sacred Wild Woman Medicine


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“The journey of the hero
is about the courage
to seek the depths;
the image of creative rebirth;
the eternal cycle of change within us;
the uncanny discovery
that the seeker is the mystery
which the seeker seeks to know.

The hero journey is a symbol that binds,
in the original sense of the word,
two distant ideas,
the spiritual quest of the ancients
with the modern search for identity,
always the one,
yet marvelously constant
story that we find.”
-Phil Cousineau-

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