- -★★The Talk|Soul Food Series 10th Edition

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 Have you had "The Talk" yet?

 Not "The Talk we are most commonly familiar with relative to the birds and the bees, I am referring to something more empowering, the talk with yourself. Taking time to communicate with yourself, reinforcing  how very loved and important you are is paramount to your overall well being.

 

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Reflection Questions 

Consider how active we are in the lives of others, how we  conduct our relationships, especially family and friendships.  Aren't we sympathetic, compassionate, encouraging and forgiving to those that are important to us? Edgar Burton eloquently stated. "A friend in need, is a friend indeed". The underlying meaning is to value those who are there for us in our time of need. Well aren't we always with ourselves? 

1. How much time and attention do you give yourself? 
2. Are  you encouraging/uplifting towards yourself when you are feeling  "out of sorts"?
3. Do you extend forgiveness to yourself for your past mistakes? 
4. Do you lavish love and acceptance to yourself?

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 It is essential to treat yourself with the love, respect, dignity and the high regard you deserve. To coin a phrase by William Shakespeare "To thine own self be true". 

You can not take yourself for granted and expect to have a rewarding and fulfilling life,  It all begins with you.

As I looked in the mirror, I saw myself with "new eyes".  Previously, I just glanced  in the mirror during the course of the day to check my appearance. Now I really took the time to look at myself and fully appreciate all that I am.  I felt a sense of overwhelming sadness to the point of tears at having disappointed myself, and yet there was immense relief for there was  forgiveness. It was as if a weight had been removed.  Absolute love and acceptance filled my very being. I felt such happiness and complete acceptance.  The reality of the moment was, a connection was established,  I was fully engaged with myself. 

 My girlfriend and I went back into my living room.  She said, now you look like "You" and you know what she was right, I felt just like "Me"  and I smiled.  I conveyed my gratitude and appreciation to her for caring enough about our relationship to take the time to introduce  "Me"  to "'Me", the girl in the mirror, on that eventful day a beautiful relationship/connection was forged.   

 10 STEPS TO CONTACT YOUR INNER BEING article

" Each of us is connected with the Divine. The Higher Self within us far transcends the understanding of our conscious minds"

 

The Principle of Self-Reflection happyscience-na.org Self-reflection is a way to clean off the grime and discover the true self - the self that manifests divine nature and is connected to higher dimensions in the Spirit World.

 link to 10 questions article (Power of Self Reflection)

 

Accepting & Loving Ourselves in 10 Simple Steps - Tiny Buddha tinybuddha.com “Why compare yourself with others? No one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.” ~Unknown The idea of loving yourself often seems cliché ...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pic5wSJBR-U

Look into the mirror and smile,  speak to yourself lovingly.  Imagine what a beautiful bouquet of  joy and  love you are presenting to yourself when you take the time to acknowledge yourself as a dear friend. 

Awesome Self Talk allisoncrow.com [see this article for a list of wonderful things to say to yourself]

You are in just the perfect spot in your life journey and everything is is working out just fine -

See more : see many more wonderful things to say to yourself here

4 Quotes About Self Love allisoncrow.com

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 16/03/2017. Last edited on 19/03/2017.

1. How much time and attention do you give yourself? 

Time and attention ?

intention, and attention come to mind. 

Will return

 The Self Love Journal is actually a real book I've never read, though sounds like a good everyday book to write in daily, to reinforce and enjoy our lovely selves on our lovely co-created journey(: A wonderful idea... hmmm(:

(: will return(:

2.Are  you encouraging/uplifting towards yourself when you are feeling  "out of sorts"?

What a wonderful question this is!!! I will come back to it.

3. Do you extend forgiveness to yourself for your past mistakes? 

4. Do you lavish love and acceptance to yourself?

Yes, I do have lots of wonderful conversations with myself. My focus these days is more progressive action on things I believe will serve me well... A  balanced focus. The more I do for me, the more I trust myself to be there for me, and for others. 

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saving a place Nancee, I will surely return(:

I haven't yet listened to videos or read all articles... though I will! Thanks for this wonderful topic!

1. How much time and attention do you give yourself? 
   
   A lot these days. I don't think I gave myself much attention until beginning in 2006. I was giving far more attention to others and the person I wanted people to believe I was that I became quite desensitized to my own feelings. I didn't get back in touch with my feelings until the end of this last year in 2016. Now much of my time and attention goes to myself, how I am feeling, who I am being, what I am doing, why I am doing it, etc.
    
2. Are  you encouraging/uplifting towards yourself when you are feeling  "out of sorts"?
   
   I'm increasing in this regard. When I am feeling out of sorts I find what it iz that I feel iz causing it, I sit with it, then transform it and move on back into good spirits again. This also helps me deal with old recurring patterns and change them. So I guess I am uplifting myself, literally so.
   
   
3. Do you extend forgiveness to yourself for your past mistakes? 
   
   Yes! I was only doing what I thought was right at the time with what I knew. This also helps me to be more forgiving toward others. If I'm not my past, then neither are they. I have even started telling my ego that I'm not past nor iz it my past. I'm not sure if it's able to compute this but it does quiet it down.
   
   
4. Do you lavish love and acceptance to yourself?
   
   This iz also increasing. I certainly love and accept myself more than I have at any other point in my life. 
   
   
   

Great post Nancee! I have had trouble speaking to myself in the mirror except for when using affirmations which produces a much more powerful effect when I look myself in the eyes and say them with conviction. Looking in the mirror and talking nicely to myself wasn't quite the same for me and I felt uneasy doing it but was unsure why. Then it dawned on me, very recently in fact, that I was focusing just on the outer shell of my body and not the unseen self. Now it's much easier to love myself and speak lovingly to myself and I have a much more loving attitude to even the outer shell of my body.

Now I'm about to sink my teeth into these videos and articles you've shared!

Just Magnifique! Thank you all for sharing your views and experiences it is gratifying to experience such synchronicity collectively, such wonderful shared harmony makes me  inside and outside.

1. How much time and attention do you give yourself?

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 22/03/2017.

In response to Nancee1953's post:

what a perfect response and you found it in a pic! Tremendous! I do agree with the answer, taking time with oneself... is vital for revitalization

much love to you my friend, selfcare (aka AWP) 

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 19/04/2017.

MIRROR TALK(:

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Posted on 30/12/2020.

December 30,2020

You can not take yourself for granted and expect to have a rewarding and fulfilling life,  It all begins with you.