Catch 22 Communication with Authority Figures

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Posted on 28/03/2011. Last edited on 23/11/2015.

To me a a catch-22 communication situations with Authority Figures
are when you are put in illogical situations with people who have power over something of yours that is meaningful to you. Illogical can mean when a “higher up” has told you to do something that would prevent you from doing/learning ‘something else’. That ‘something else’ is then considered an area you can’t do or chosen not to do. And as time goes by you have less and less experience that something else, because you were “somewhere else” you were told to be.
Forms of catch 22’s are often done with with blatant dishonesty and manipulative tone.

• It can be anything from keeping your home to keeping your job.

I have my own thoughts/feelings/ideas on the subject but would love to explore this more with all of you.

wow Laurie i think you are a mind reader .We live in a house we rent from a housing association and a housing officer is coming to see me on thursday – i dont know why and its unusual .As i have mentioned due to other stuff i have let the house get really cluttered and scruffy and we have too many pets inside .I have a charity collecting some stuff tomorow so im trying to empty chests of drawers ready to go .We have another shed coming tomorow but dont know if we can put it up before thursday to get bunnies outside .

The more i get anxious the less im achieving – catch 22 – and i realised im like an addict spending far too long on p c ,every few miuites i check email and forums .love flowergirl

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Posted on 28/03/2011.

In response to flowergirl’s post:
That is definitely a form of a catch 22. I think we all attest to that type too.

I think understanding how to relieve stress would be a good one for your situation. For example if you have an “urgent an important” area..it might be a good idea to add this tool to your start of the day day-Writing.

Keep a 2 page calendar. On 1 page, when you wake up..write everything you can think of that is on your mind. Wanting to use the PC and preparing for the Thurs. visit. Get out all of your feelings, thoughts related to this, and extraneous things that crop up when you are trying to focus on other areas ..written off to the side. You will see everything this way.

Then when you are finished..go down through all of the things that require action of some sort..and give it power..by addressing it..not putting it under the rug where it comes to haunt you in other ways. Addressing means a quick, kind, smart response..since you are definitely capable of all 3(: it will be a cinch.

There is no reason for you not to take time to relieve your stress (PC etc) on areas that are helpful. Though make sure the other things that need a sense of urgency receive your time(Thurs. visit), love and respect also.

On the other page you will use for the day…create a time-map calendar..to see if what you are trying to do for that is reasonable. Make sure you include breaks in your day…Let’s say 15 minute breaks. With 15 minute breaks you can go to the PC or whatever breaks up the stressors. Stressors are less stressful when given the time..and ..also know that you know that you are truly taking care of yourself..like eating well, sleeping well, resting, exercising, speaking kindly to yourself, writing, reading, prayer, and meditation..

Also let’s say you are trying to eat better, get more rest and exercise..you will be so surprised what you can accomplish in 15 minute intervals.

A day can go by so quickly..If you truly have things that have consequences attached..a plan is not just helpful..but a gift from God(:

The more stressful..consequence-prone a situation is..The more assisting yourself in a complete manner is needed..I feel.
For example, if you work in the wee hours on a project..and you don’t eat, rest, write, pray, meditate a bit…or whatever is your healthy-Flowergirl needs..how will you feel then?

You will really be looking for more escapes..which could possibly create the catch 22.

What do you think?
Just ideas off the cuff. Hope some of it helps.

thank you so much selfcare  ,it has really struck me today how much time i waste on here every day ,its hours just hopping from one forum to another .

i like the 2 page calender idea ,especially as i need my sons help with lifting things downstairs so i can give him a list of what needs moving .

love flowergirl

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Posted on 28/03/2011.

In response to flowergirl’s post:
Your welcome(:
I send you the best ( prayers, thoughts,loving energy)

you are so helpfull .Its about 4 30 pm here so im making a cup of tea and then regrouping my thoughts for what i can achieve this evening .love flowergirl

In response to flowergirl’s post:

Dear Flowrergirl,

Sometime back I registered a lady for Section 8 housing. The person who came to check her house was very rude and threatened to stop her section 8 housing. They could have given her a chance by a cetain date to alleve the situation.

She came to me crying and her blood pressure was very high a danger to her because she was not well. I explained being a disabled person she had rights. Someone is over the section 8 program and you send a certified return recipt letter to your congressman, county supervisor or whoever is over that program. It worked and they got off her back. Because she mentioned in the letter that she did not want any repercussions because of her letter. It worked.

Not always but most of the time we have rights that we are unaware of and in order to survive we have to use them. It can backfire too if it is done too much. At least you know you did the best to fen for your life.

Blessings,
Mary

thanks Mary ,i wish i knew why she is coming ,its nearly 10.30 now so im getting ready for bed as im up at 5 am to walk to train station with my daughter,feeling rather dozy .Love flowergirl

sending you all the best positive energy….

from experience… when I allow myself to speculate about the why and then give it up to the universe, I find out that there was no reason to worry in the first place…. even if it is “bad” news…. your new positive life style will grant you all you need to make it through…..
again…. sending postitive energy and love to you and yours…. ,->

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Posted on 29/03/2011. Last edited on 30/03/2011.

In response to flowergirl’s post:
In response to coachhouse’s post:

Total agreement Coachouse… “even if it is “bad” news…. your new positive life style will grant you all you need to make it through…..”

Perception is a powerful-thing, huh?

In response to coachhouse’s post:
thanks coachhouse,if nothing else its got me really motivated to sort out our home .I am going to keep telling myself positive affirmations today ,i have said for a long time i would like to move ,maybe her visit could lead to us moving to a quieter home with 4 bedrooms – you never know .

The worst things i can think of are
1)dog barking a lot – he does but im going to start more walks and get a trainers advise
2)house very scruffy – it is but because of illness etc and now im sorting it out
3)rent was in arrears as im not on housing benefit any more and forgot to pay it – have paid arrears and am setting up direct debits for all bills

I will explain to her that my daughters been ill , i have health challenges ,had bereavements ,money problems and came very close to a breakdown but now im on the way up and sorting things out . thanks for your encouragement ,love flowergirl

In response to Laurie Enjoys This Moment’s post:
thanks selfcare as i do as much as i can today i will be affirming i am welcoming this lady into our home – not thinking oh no whats this woman going to say or do .

Powerfull changes going on internally .

When i wrote the list of stuff for charity it took it from being massive task in my mind to half hour task .Writings good for getting stuff out of your head isnt it ,love flowergirl

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Posted on 30/03/2011.

In response to flowergirl’s post:
Keep us informed about the day you are creating(:

And yes writing is a phenomenal tool(:

its hard work selfcare  but making me so determined never to be so cluttered and big sons helping which is good as we are chatting and having a laugh .I have earned long soak in bath tonight .Back soon with an update

love ,hugs and rainbows to you all,flower

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Posted on 30/03/2011.

In response to flowergirl’s post:
Once again you are an inspiration to many..

All of us here take cues where we can get them to do what we have to when we have to do it..We aren’t here just to feel great..but to acknowledge we are already great people..doing/being great.

It is powerful to hear your honesty and your efforts to do whatever it is you need..

from one great to another..big hug across the miles to you too(:

its 10.30 p m and this flowers wilting and needs to be up at 5 a m ,but wanted to say a very quick thank you ,i keep being told im an inspiration and actually started to think it might be true today ,so much i woyuld love to chat about but too dozy ,need my p j s and comfy pillows and pink fluffy blanket for a few hours sleep and then tomorow i will welcome my visiter ! love and hugs flowergirl

hi folks ,just walked to town with my daughter and her dog ,its like having a naughty toddler ,shes a 2 year old cocker spaniel and is crackers .Time for a quick brew ,hoover and wash my hair .

Then my mantra is going to be ,this lady is coming into our lives to help .Really trying with affirmations here and new positive mental attitude.

lots of love flowergirl

hi folks ,well housing lady has been and gone ..It was o k after all my worrying ,she is new and is just coming round getting to meet the tennants .She asked if i had any problems and i just said i would like to do a swap somewhere quieter and with 4 bedrooms ,she is sending me a form out to go on the swapping list but did say having so many animals would go against us .One ot 2 dogs,a cat and maybe one bunny or guinea pig might be o k – we have 2 dogs,1 cat 4 bunnies and 6adult guinea pigs + 6× 4 week old baby ones She wasnt impressed with so many inside but i showed her that we have hutches and a new shed to put up so they can go outside soon .Going to try to rehome 2 bunnies .

She just suggested getting all jobs done like broken sockets,windows that are stuck and put down some flooring – we have had bare wodchip boards for years as i couldnt afford flooring and then going for a swap .

Going to make a vision board for a country home where i can keep my furry friends ,not after a posh place ,tumble down will do as long as theres a loo,bath ,hot/cold water and a fireplace or stove .

I have a lovely unusual feeling as though its all going to work out well if im patient and stay out of my own way if you know what i mean .

Feel so relaxed now ,got Llewellyn c d on candles lit and dog asleep by my feet,the pressures off now and im still motivated to get our home lovely whether we move sooner or later .

It feels so good to be taking a pride in it after being overwhelmed by the amount of stuff .

thanks for all your encouragement it made such a difference .
love flowergirl

It sounds like your mantra “This Lady is comming into our lives to help” is working. Pleased it went well for you flowergirl. :)

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Posted on 31/03/2011.

In response to flowergirl’s post:
In response to best78’s post:

yes..speak well of yourself and circumstances (past, present, and future)

So happy for you flowergirl..I understand your relief.
(heart-smiles to you)