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Posted on 30/09/2023. Last edited on 01/10/2023.
The September Happiness Meeting was a Fall Theme
& the topic was entitled
“Power Hour: Me First”
the previous mtg
This one focuses more
on Me Too- Allowing ….
Discovery
Curiosity, Passion, Faith & Embracing Uncertainty, Gratefulness , Communication
Life is a mixture of experience. Let’s wear it well(:
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“EASE IS THE ONLY WAY I CHOOSE.
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The world has become a very busy minded place . So many individual & big world events continue to take place … This thread is the allowing the world to be the world - as you are deciding who you are , how you want to be and including others with love , though not at the expense of your authenticity and happiness.
Authenticity and happiness are huge areas spoken about a lot , though the topic of this meeting is to keeping the focus on yourself while listening to others you interact with. Where is the love for ourselves if we are not growing with what we are discovering about ourselves . Where is the love for others when we are not hearing / listening to others from their stand point . Hence me , too
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This meeting hopes to touch on communication, feeling fully expressed , setting boundaries etc
There is much room for self discovery and other - discovery .
"How many languages are there in the world? How about 5 billion! Each of us talks, listens, and thinks in his/her own special language that has been shaped by our culture, experiences, profession, personality, mores and attitudes. The chances of us meeting someone else who talks the exact same language is pretty remote". Anonymous
Suggested Reflection Questions in process
First reflection question?(:
When you hear this quote, what comes to mind?
The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. – George Bernard Shaw
2nd reflection question:
read the next 2 quotes & respond to what you receive as meaningful for you ?
The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.
MARK TWAIN
Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.
ROY T. BENNETT
3rd reflection question How is the next quote involved in your personal experience?
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4th Reflection Question is a 2 parter.
A If you have ever felt the feeling of disconnect when you are interacting with others - what do you feel helped create on your part or the part of others?
B What helps to provide a true connection with other for you?
5th reflection
Affirmations (Maslow)
How does your level of being affect your communication w/ others?
How do you believe others level of being tends to affect you ?
What have you learned this year or a life lesson across the years … about good, true loving interactions with others.
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“EASE IS THE ONLY WAY I CHOOSE.”
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Life is about making excellent choices!!
Posted on 30/09/2023. Last edited on 01/10/2023.
You are Divine, Moderator:
Thank you for creating this thread!
Thank you for your questions regarding communication.
Communication is everything, isn't it?!
Communication should not be taken for granted; nor should relationships be taken for granted.
This applies to all relationships: siblings, parent/children, friends, spouse, boss/employee, neighbor, colleague, etc.
When you value a relationship, you respond to all forms of communication. You don't ignore the need for clarity and you don't ignore the person with whom you value. When you need to clean things up, you are demonstrating the need/desire for effective communication, and the need for being understood, being heard and being taken seriously.
I am grateful that we linked the last thread: "The ME FIRST POWER HOUR!"
The reason we link threads in to provide a structure that we can keep building on.
For those who enjoy both the journey and the growth, there is a learning smorgasbord as well as an infinite well of creation from which to draw from!
Welcome All!!
May we all find exactly what we need - exactly when we need it!
“Radical Acceptance is the ability to face hardships with greater love and deeper awareness.
Contemplation shapes radical acceptance as a way to choose love and peace over anger and despair.
Begin by finding this within ourselves before helping others.
Life is about making excellent choices!!
Posted on 30/09/2023. Last edited on 01/10/2023.
This Happiness meeting - is a great source for inner and outer expansion...
There is so much to latch on to in the intro to this meeting, that its easy to grab one thought and begin to develop your own art session... or should I say - your own heart session!
Art and heart -- are the ultimate pursuit of expression and of self.
We also gain insight and understanding of gifted artists' by their amazing talent on canvas, or by their gift for capturing light, and making their work timeless.
And, Life is Art.
We are all works of art, in our own way! We are creating with each new day!
We spend years listening to others; then, as we mature in adult life, we begin to listen to ourself...
In happiness meetings, we are here to create something with intention for ourself.
We frequently speak of "making space..." to create, to make room for something that we have chosen, to work on an important area of ourself...
Now, we are being invited in these two past happiness meetings for a space to resoundingly have your own POWER HOUR: ME FIRST!
And, now: paying attention to communication. Awakening new curiosity in how elevating communication brings new velocity in to our relationships or it may elevate the velocity in other commitments...
Give yourself permission - while coming from a position of positivity and momentum...
There really is immense creative potential in both of these meetings!
I know that there is a lot of ways to use creative energy to open up new doors of perception, and new perceptions create new ways of self expression and self endowment...
Everyday, I work for ways to make my life experience have kindness, compassion and flow.
I have learned how to take care of my affairs. I am free to make new choices. I enjoy my health and I value my inner circle of friends. I am always grateful when my heart is in a peaceful space...
“Radical Acceptance is the ability to face hardships with greater love and deeper awareness.
Contemplation shapes radical acceptance as a way to choose love and peace over anger and despair.
Begin by finding this within ourselves before helping others.
Affirmations
My faith operates in at least five levels: faith in Higher Power…I call God, faith in myself, faith in this moment, faith in others, and faith in tomorrow or the future.
MY LIFE IS A BLESSING
I value myself. I value my mind, my emotions, my body, & my spirit.
I recognize my progress and I am very supportive of myself.
I am refreshingly rejuvenated by every thought I think and every feeling I allow..
My divine beauty within and around me is my focus.
My inner vision is always clear and focused
I possess an endless supply of creativity, energy and tolerance for any project that I assume.
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“EASE IS THE ONLY WAY I CHOOSE.”
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˚ faith, hope, trust, belief
Posted on 30/09/2023. Last edited on 01/10/2023.
Reflection question responses coming soon
- The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. – George Bernard Shaw
In Re: to above quote .
Whether we are comfortable or uncomfortable in a conversation is not the true ticket in communication and interactions.
Are we speaking to hear ourselves speak or
are we truly engaging with another?
Sometimes we are fortunate when we are allowed to ‘just get things out’ over & over again.
I am grateful for those that have allowed for this.
Sometimes it’s about remembering who we we are speaking to … to first understand & then be understood … as the saying goes.
Do we really know we are heard with the heartfelt information that was valuable to us?
I believe the most valuable way to allow for this - sometimes is to simply ask - what do you hear me saying ? Persons who assume they are hearing and listening & understanding without asking clarifying questions can understand. Though, think of the heartfelt level of understanding we gain - by saying Do you mean this … or that? These questions are not to place individuals on the defensive , I believe it shows you care , and that you are desiring the heartfelt curiosity because it’s what being present is all about.
I believe in healthy boundaries , though we are the only ones which can stand up for our boundaries. Healthy boundaries are … well simply healthy (:
2. In Re:to following quote
The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.
MARK TWAIN
In Re:to following quote
Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.
ROY T. BENNETT
3. in Re:
It's what is happening inside. It allowing belief in Something
Greater than Ourselves. It's about the intending of the
value of life-giving Now.
Life is about making excellent choices!!
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I value all communications that are a part of my current life. I am in school, I have instructors and I have preceptors that support me in my clinical rotations. I just finished my last clinical, and I am wrapping up all of that this semester.
When I do communicate, I try to be clear and concise.
In my personal life, I have boundaries that are healthy for me.
I focus on my list of priorities and my performance. I'm in school; I have one more semester, and time to focus on my single priority: I've got to prep for a huge certification exam.
After that, I am focusing on getting a new job and a place that is a safe and descent to live, and settle down.
“Radical Acceptance is the ability to face hardships with greater love and deeper awareness.
Contemplation shapes radical acceptance as a way to choose love and peace over anger and despair.
Begin by finding this within ourselves before helping others.
In response to Life is about making excellent choices!!'s post:
Thank you for extending such a beautiful welcome .I love our community, and I know you do too💖
4th reflection questions
A If you have ever felt the feeling of disconnect when you are interacting with others - what do you feel helped create the disconnect
on your part
or the part of others?
To me, disconnect is mostly created by oneself , not the other person. When we are ‘comfortable in our own skin’,
we do have way less expectations of the world to be any particular way. At the same time , we can still know what our preferences are , and they won’t always be grasped or something another will want to know, see or care about,
I know topics I don’t want to hear, and that is how I love myself . If I am not listened to, it’s up to me to express to another that I don’t want this/ or do want that
or to say …
it’s not good for me because … I am comfortable w/the work I have done on myself & the direction I want to continue to work on. I don’t feel undervalued when people do not do what I ask . I feel the person I am speaking to doesn’t know how to engage with me because of their own history . While it’s less comfortable than I would like, I don’t take it personally.
B What helps to provide a true connection
with others for you? For me to be my authentic self , being true to my boundaries & having others hear my walk… in the way I choose to share - long version or summaries (:
I am
not married to the world .. I don’t expect to be as open or as involved on every level with the world. I do expect myself to be peaceful & loving even when people behave in disgruntled ways. Connecting ideally with others is why God is here to help us . We simply don’t have all the answers - We will make mistakes … Though I have faith that all happens well…
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5th reflection question (s)
Affirmations (Maslow)
How does your level of being affect your communication w/ others?
How do you believe others level of being tends to affect you ?
What have you learned this year or a life lesson across the years … about good, true loving interactions with others.
In my view , 1 of the most important things we can do for ourselves is to listen to ourselves … really listen .
Say you had a moment of catastrophic thinking … you know a chicken little - moment. Yes, they aren’t pretty , though they are very valuable … It can tell you where your thoughts take you when everything feels like it just may not be happening in the ‘optimum’ way.
Before you begin only associating with the better feeling thoughts because life or yourself has shifted - what we’re you saying when you were hurting , scared or frustrated. This starts powerful discovery . Stay curious & loving -,‘Don’t yell at yourself and ask What were you thinking Self ?
Have compassion, surrender, detach with love … and discover with lighthearted curiosity your humanness . Chances are you will relive to ‘that previous degree’ that particular place … because you won’t just have gone thru it - you will grow thru it
Nice link
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Heres an interesting quote about communication:
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short video PERFECT SELF-EXPRESSION a gift from the planet…a gift of being yourself
affirmation:
I rejoice in the Divine plan which includes health, wealth, happiness, and perfect self-expression for me now
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In the mean time what is “perfect self-expression to you? What comes up for you?
Lighthearted Curiosity
is such a beautiful energy -
when it comes to allowing presence
in communication .
How beautiful it is to have reciprocity in good communication .
Just imagine / being able to be your authentic self , keeping your boundaries & someone just enjoying to know you .
I love that .
A light heart lives long.
William Shakespeare
- SELF-EXPRESSION Today I express myself with joy and enthusiasm. I live more abundantly and I accept the possibility and the responsibility. I look more deeply into the heart of all people finding there the pulsation of the Heart of the Universe Itself. I penetrate all externals and reveal the Divine Presence hidden there, the Presence of the living God. And I know in this my self-seeking, this my self-expression of the abundance of the Whole, there is nothing little or mean, there is nothing isolated or separate from the All-Good. This Good is to me even as It is to others. As I lift high the chalice of my hope and faith I know that it shall overflow, that everything I do shall be blessed, every good I seek shall be expressed through me, and everyone I meet shall proclaim anew to me that God, the living Presence, is expressing Himself through all humanity and rejoicing in that which He does.✰。˚ ˚ღ。 ˛˚ 。✰˚* ˚ ★ღ ˚ 。✰Ernest Holmes
After going thru a significant loss , love is always the energy that gets remembered- under any and all conditions. Though when doing the ‘moving forward’ - without that person - love for self & the world begins getting a newer attention.
Who am I?
Where have I been & where am I going?
How will I get there?
Answer to all the questions is love .
Sometimes the Questions are more important than the answers . The answers will come … when they are supposed to w/ Gods helo.
thank You God… everyday for another day that you inform, instruct & Guide with love .
Going to create some links to earlier posts .. since this thread is growing in many ways lol
Please don’t let the direction/ directions deter you from
visiting . Take a look with curiosity .. I like
a Chinese Food analogy .. take one from column A and 1 from column B etc… & have it your way (:
2ndly … Most don’t like to (admit) putting too much stock in the awaiting their fortune cookie lol
Though, think about it … all it is a a brand new thought - that you are choosing to give you insight into your world.
- You have positive expectation
- You take the info as a positive invitation to something wonderful
- You are lighthearted … enjoyably curious … and whether it’s stale or absolutely fresh cookie - it becomes your treat of the day .
Now if conversations were like that - with yourself … with others .. peace in your spirit … would… well remain peace .
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In response to Life is about making excellent choices!!'s post:
I too value all of my communications. I appreciate your focus , your dedication & goals.
In regard to communication, 1 of a few reasons this thread idea started to fill my spirit … was bc Love is so important to me. It doesn’t matter if it’s a person on the phone - business or personal or in person. And by examining different types of relationship, I can also examine different types of boundaries and my why - so I can love myself more authentically and others even more.
I had been putting off a personal letter to a friend who one might label difficult. While it isn’t a free flowing process w/ this person to correspond with … I do love her and want the very best for her. I asked myself … how can I be the authentic & loving person on myself that I value the most … and not ruffle her feathers who seem to be in a constant state of irritation by something . I know this is a true change in this person , and I don’t take it personally . It is said everything is either love or a cry for love . I am sure there are things in between - though … it helps me love regardless of behavior …also bc we have a wonderful long ago …history .
long story short every relationship, every interaction is unique … hence this thread which has already helped me follow thru with my connections .
I wrote more , though deleted , no bottom line this work in this meeting has truly helped me.
Language
I found myself in my self talk today
using language I don’t normally use ,
it belonged to a friend who had great comfort using it.
You’d think no harm , I wasn’t saying it to anyone else , though I am
the most important person in my life … If I don't treat myself with high vibrational frequency … how could I show value to others w/ the same level of respect
So my next post will be affirmations to address self talk
In response to 🎈You are Divine 🎈's post:
I use Divine language to match my Divine spirit .
And we cannot forget interactions/communication w/ our inner chold
I love these 3 things
quote ,
Attributes of as Powerful Person,
7 Vital
Core Connections
Seek To First Understand & Then Be Understood
Attributes Of A Powerful Personby Dr. Laura BrownSomatic power (in our bodies),Intrapersonal power ( in our relationships to ourselves) , Interpersonal Power ( in our relationships with others and the world around usand Spiritual/Existential Power ( in our capacity to make meaning in life )
Somatic Power
Intrapersonal Power
The powerful person knows what she or he thinks; thinks critically, can change her or his mind; flexible, not suggestible, yet open to input. Trusts intuition, and also is able to find external data for validation of intuition; knows feelings as they are felt. Feelings are a useful source of information about the here and now. There is an absence of numbness, and the presence of aliveness. There is the ability to experience powerful emotions, to contain affect so as to feel it and function, to be able to self-
soothe in ways that are not harmful to self or others physically, psychosocially, or spiritually.
Interpersonal Power
Spiritual/Existential Power
7 Vital Connections making up your True Self from Advanced Living Skills
1. The Core Connection. This is where it all begins. The core connection side of your true self is made up of your deeply held values, passions, beliefs, and response patterns. This is the place where your paradigms of pain and pleasure are born and reside. When analyzing our personal perspective of life, this is the very core.
2. The Motive Connection. This is the home of your reasons for doing the things you do. It’s your personal WHY behind your thoughts and actions. Motive is also closely related to your personal definition of complicated concepts like success and failure. Motive is the why part of your true self.
3. The Vision Connection. We all have mental movies of where we are and where we would like to be. Our vision of things like goals and obstacles are highly personalized because we create them based on our unique vantage point. Vision is the driver of our true self.
4. The Path Connection. The course we choose to walk will have a powerful influence on where we end up. This is the journey aspect of our true self. How well thought out that path is should be a matter of primary concern to everyone. Not only do you get to choose your path, but you also assume responsibility for where it leads you.
5. The Power Connection. This has to do with how well we are able to manage several personal resources like focus, motivation, self-talk, and commitment. It also has to do with how much we allow the opposing forces of fear and eager anticipation to influence us. Combined, these resources determine the horse power behind our true self.
6. The Identity Connection. How do you see yourself and your abilities? Are you capable or incapable? Do you approve of yourself or disapprove? Are you comfortable with the idea of success on a personal level, or do you feel undeserving? What does your true self identify with?
7. The Fulfillment Connection. This is the satisfaction side of our true self. Many people never feel any real sense of satisfaction with regard to their accomplishments regardless of how impressive those accomplishments might be. This is usually an indicator that something is missing. Accomplishment without contribution is unfulfilling!
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