★˚Investing In Ourselves

˚ I AM joy of clarity, being & doing  

Posted on 16/03/2010. Last edited on 14/10/2019.

Brighton, UK / Tam is a mixed media artist, illustrator and online art teacher. She has 2 little boys and a magical husband. She likes avocados, pink bubblegum and messy hair.

 

 

 

 

 

Today and every day, life happens THROUGH me not TO me

_{affirmation source- Ray Davis}

˚ I AM joy of clarity, being & doing  

Posted on 16/03/2010. Last edited on 14/10/2019.

Owners versus Victims Steve Chandler uses this concept in his various seminars

•  Owners create while Victims react.
•  Owners believe that they have substantial control of their actions while Victims believe other people or events have control of their life.
•  Owners are “building a life” while Victims are “making a living”.
•  Owners “get something from” every experience while Victims “try to get through” experiences.
•  Owners “use life” to gain while Victims feel “used by life”.
•  Owners “want to” do things while Victims think they “should”, “ought to” do things. Owners are focused on their actions while Victims are pre-occupied with lots of events.
•  Owners “buy in” to change and new actions while Victims use the “wait and see” approach.
•  Owners use language of possible while Victims use the language of restriction.
•  Owners deliberately jump-start a positive cybernetics loop while Victims enter into negative cybernetics loop.
•  Owners think positive and optimistically while Victims think negatively and pessimistically. summary from e-consultants

Thank you for starting this thread, Laurie.

:)

The key seems to be in being aware. Awareness is what helps you differentiate between your true nature and any negative feeling or emotion you may experience. And, of course, it always helps to remember that everything is temporary, that nothing lasts forever.
Thanks for the post, Laurie, it was very interesting.

Hi Laurie,

I like this one from your post: “◦Owners are “building a life” while Victims are “making a living”.”

If we think positively and think what action can I take to make this situation better – or what can I do to make this work for me – we can then feel in more control. Even if it’s something small.

I believe that feeling that we have a choice makes us feel powerful and more in control. Even if we cannot take an action at a certain point in time, our minds are always free to choose which way to go mentally(even if we can’t follow that choice physically).

Blessings! :)