Please bmindful with your words during this time

Posted on 07/05/2013. Last edited on 29/10/2015.

As well as being mindful of our thoughts/words and actions to ourselves there are many occasions when we need to be extra mindful of our words to others .

The one I want to focus on in this thread is a miscarriage .I lost a baby when I was 3 months pregnant 34 years ago and for all this time have kept my feelings in and not grieved for that life that was so short .

This was because I kept my tears, my heartbreak , wondering was it something I did ,and that feeling of losing something so precious to myself because of comments made to me such as

“You are young and healthy ,you can try again”
“You can have more children”
“It wasn’t alive”
“Don’t upset yourself”
“Why are you upset so much”
“You can’t grieve for someone that wasn’t born”

I’m not blaming anyone but my hope is that by sharing this it could make someone think before they say those comments that they think are helpful .The bond between a Mother and her child starts in the womb and is never broken .

One day I will meet that sweet little soul that was part of me for such a tiny time of my life .

I went on to give birth to my three wonderful children ,now ages25,23 and 20 and am so grateful for the gift of 4 pregnancies .

Hippiegirl

Posted on 07/05/2013.

A Mother’s Prayer/ Affirmation After Miscarriage

In this time of loss I call upon my spirit within to guide me to my strength so that I may find peace and completion.

I will use this strength to demand of myself and others my need to grieve completely, for this will be my first step to healing.

During my time of grief I will seek guidance not only from my inner spirit but from loving persons who may offer wisdom and comfort.

I need to understand that the soul as well as the physical body needs healing and to pay attentio to this. I will learn to accept that the soul may never heal completely.

I will learn to live not in fear and once again see beauty in my world and purpose in my existence.

In spite of my new knowledge that things happen that cannot be controlled, I must call upon the places within me that tell me I do have control over much of my life and use this control to aid my healing.

Let me recognize the gift in my ability to conceive and carry life however briefly.

Let me take joy in my ability to love so deeply and desire to nurture a soul unbeknownst to me.

Let me find healing in the belief that this oul knew my love for it and that that love helped it to pass to another place.

Let me honor this short life not only with my love but in finding meaning in its existence.

Let me recognize this meaning in not only my ability to survive, but in my fullest appreciation of all the moments motherhood will bring me, along with my deeper compassion and sisterhood to other women who’ve experienced loss.

Let a part of this soul be reflected in the spirit of my future children, born or adopted, so that I may know it through them.

I will listen to and trust the place in my deepest heart that tells me I will once again be reunited with this soul and will fulfill the need to hold it in my arms.

I will help myself to feel comfort in the knowledge that there is a star in heaven that belongs to me.

by Stacey Dinner-Levin

Hippiegirl

Posted on 07/05/2013.

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