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'★To Love Yourself Well

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  • The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe. Deepak Chopra

    “The person in life that you will always be with the most, is yourself. Because even when you are with others, you are still with yourself, too! When you wake up in the morning, you are with yourself, laying in bed at night you are with yourself, walking down the street in the sunlight you are with yourself.What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? Because that person is yourself, and it’s your responsibility to be that person you want to be with. I know I want to spend my life with a person who knows how to let things go, who’s not full of hate, who’s able to smile and be carefree. So that’s who I have to be.”
    author ― C. C. JoyBell

     

    excerpt of article
    to read in full 7 Simple Steps to Love Yourself Unconditionally, Be Happier and More Peaceful!   Reading Time: 1 min 35 sec

Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ from LifeCoachOnThe Go
So, here are 7 simple steps to practice unconditional love:

    • ~• Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ(1)The best time to practice is when we feel judged. Next time you notice you feel judged (whether it’s by you or someone else), be quiet with yourself for a moment and take a deep breath.
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      • Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ(2) And another.
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      • Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ (3)Look inside for the kind, wise you that loves you unconditionally. Look for their words of comfort and listen to what they have to say. (That’s all there is to it.)
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      • Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ(4) If you hear anything critical or judgmental you’ve not found the kind, wise you yet. Take another deep breath (or three) and try again.
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      • Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ (5) Repeat until you hear the kind, compassionate words you need.
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      • Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ(6) You’ll know if you’ve found them because you’ll feel lighter – and possibly even a bit tearful (the good tears that mean you’ve connected with the part of you that MOST needs love).
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      • Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ (7)Practice!(:
      Coaching Tip: Many people find this hard – and one of the easiest ways to access this state of being is to imagine yourself as a small child. Now treat yourself as if you were this small child who is feeling upset and judged (remember what that feels like?). What would you say to them?
      Remember, everyone needs love and acceptance – no matter what. If you won’t give it to yourself, who will?

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Stop All Criticism.

Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

Forgive Yourself.

Let the past go. You did the best you could at the time with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge that you had. Now you are growing and changing, and you will live life differently.

Don’t Scare Yourself.

Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure, and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

Be Gentle and Kind and Patient.

Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

Be Kind to Your Mind.

Self-hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

Praise Yourself.

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

Support Yourself.

Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

Be Loving to Your Negatives.

Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns.

Take Care of Your Body.

Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need in order to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise do you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

Do Mirror Work.

Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself while looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents while looking into the mirror. Forgive them, too. At least once a day, say, “I love you, I really love you!”

Love Yourself . . . Do It Now.

Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or find the new relationship. Begin now—and do the best you can.

Have Fun.

Remember the things that gave you joy as a child. Incorporate them into your life now. Find a way to have fun with everything you do. Let yourself express the joy of living. Smile. Laugh. Rejoice, and the Universe rejoices with you!
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Important Acts of Self Kindness
1. Say ‘I Love You
2. Wave Goodbye To Your Inner Critic
3. Speak Only Kind Words
So, now that you can recognise the dramatic impact that your words have on your happiness, why not go from being your inner critic to your inner cheerleader?
4. Acknowledge Your Achievements
5. Change Your Thoughts
We are defined by our thoughts – change your thoughts and you can change your life. However, this doesn’t mean that you should let your thoughts scare you. When we experience negative or hateful thoughts, this is not who we truly are. So don’t let your thoughts fool you – this is not who you are. read article in its entirety

thank you for this thread Selfcare and all the wonderful links.

I think this is a subject that is perfect for discussion here as being mindful and using affirmations can sometimes be one of the first steps someone will take to learn to change their thoughts and feelings about themselves .It is a good thread for our” newbees“and the old timers like myself who have been here a while .

Just read this on Tiny Buddha

Create a positive space and break the cycle of negativity

it has helped me see that although we have an endless supply of love to give to others ,we need to replenish our own energy or we allow ourselves to be drained and then the negative thoughts and melancholy have an opening to come into our thoughts .

The first thoughts that come into my mind are that loving yourself means that you accept your weaknesses and that sometimes you (I) will make mistakes – some of which will be silly ones. Loving myself well means that I’ll accept, correct the mistake if possible and move on -not get angry and call myself names. Loving myself means I must give myself the same patience and love, attention and encouragement that I give to others. Sometimes I get impatient with myself.

Thanks for the links to Louise Hay, Selfcare and to Tiny Buddha, flower girl. Cheers! :)

Positive Affirmations and Audio Stories

Affirmations,Audio Stories and handcrafted Inspirational Gifts

“It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who think you’re not.”

I believe each and everyone of us is a piece of a greater puzzle. We were made here on Earth for a reason. I don’t want to be like anyone else I just want to be myself and love me. So that is what I am doing now. I don’t agree with everyone or someone who is sooo famous but I believe they were sent here to help us all. Whats wrong with being me even if others don’t like the way I think, act or look? We are not “one size fits all” we are all fine just being ourselves.

“I love myself for I am a beloved child of the universe and the universe lovingly takes care of me now.” Louise Hay

Self love rocks!! Love Myself

“Above everything else, genuinely love yourself first. Self-love is powerful and it’s the best love that you will ever have. When you love who YOU are, your relationships will be healthier and your life will be happier. Self-love sets the standard in how we allow others to treat us and how we treat ourselves. Your happiness and well-being is important. Protect it by always valuing who you are!”
Stephanie Lahart

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance”
Oscar Wilde

“Love is the great miracle cure.
Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”
Louise L. Hay

“The greatest love that you could ever experience on earth is the one that only comes from you to you.” Edmond Mbiaka,

“Our soul is like a soft and gentle flower, it needs to be nurtured, cared for, tended to, with sufficient sunlight, fresh air and freedom to bloom into its most precious and beautiful form. This, my friend, is self-love.” Miya Yamanouchi

“Love holds no expectation on what you will be, it simply values who you are.”
― E’yen A. Gardner,

“Never let another steal your magnificence.”
Alison Stormwolf ~

“Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.” Rainer Maria Rilke,

“Celebrate who you are in your deepest heart. Love yourself and the world will love you.”
― Amy Leigh Mercree

By nurturing myself , my disposition has a positive frequency for being present for others.

one of my favorites(:

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“The mind can be useful as a servant
not so useful as a master”

 

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