Summary of the 8th Habit. I misplaced my book…and was pleased to find this summary in the interim …but now the link is gone(:
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Stephen R. Covey, the author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People®, tells a story that illustrates this point. He was in New York for an interview and was riding on the subway. He noticed that some kids were running around and not sitting in their seats. Their father was just staring out the window and not telling them to behave. Stephen criticized the man and asked him why he was allowing his children to run around that way. The man seemed to come out of a daze and then said he was sorry, that they had just come from the hospital where his wife, the children’s’ mother had died a few minutes ago. He said they were all still in shock over their loss.
As you can imagine, Stephen felt terrible for criticizing this man who had just lost his wife. He offered his condolences and refrained from any further judgmental criticism of the man or his children. The lesson Stephen was teaching here is that we can’t always know what another person might be going through. We have not walked in their shoes. Sometimes it is best to do what our Mothers told us: If you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all. Moms are pretty wise eh?
“Dependent people need others to get what they want. Independent people can get what they want through their own efforts. Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success.” Stephen Covey
On Criticism from more joy in life
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。Stephen Covey - Q: So, I have to say “no” to some things. What should I say no to?
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- A: First, you have to decide what is important. What do you really want to be and do with your life. What is your mission? What do you want people to say about you 30 or 40 years from now? Then, look at what is being asked of you and see if those things are a part of your life’s important goals. If not, smile and say “no.” If you’ve really decided what is important, you can become an agent in helping the people you work with, your family, friends and boss, know and understand your top priorities. This takes courage. It means you have to stand up for what you feel is important and help others understand why.
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LESSONS LEARNED FROM STEPHEN COVEY BY J.D. Meier
Write and Visualize to Imprint on Your Subconscious
Covey reminded us that writing down your mission imprints it in the subconscious mind. He added that visualizing also imprints on the sub-conscious mind.
The take away is that you should write and visualize your mission statements
o ► Mission Statement Builder-generate your own mission statement today
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o ►If we want to make relatively minor changes in our lives, we can perhaps appropriately focus on our attitudes and behaviors. But if we want to make significant, quantum change, we need to work on our basic paradigms. ★ღ✰˚ ✰。Stephen Covey
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o ► Stephen Covey explains what a personal paradignm is
★ღ✰˚ ✰。On the above youtube page a youtube member said he went to Stephen Covey’s funeral:Matt Hawkes 2 months ago
I went to his funeral, and his wife said this was his purpose in life, “RELEASE HUMAN POTENTIAL.” What if that was the purpose of us all?
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Stephen Richards Covey (October 24, 1932 – July 16, 2012) was an American educator, author, businessman, and keynote speaker.
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- “I am personally persuaded that the best thinking in the area of time management can be captured in a single phrase : Organize and execute around priorities.”[]Stephen R. Covey
- Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic[]Stephen R. Covey
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Habit 1: Be Proactive
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
Habit 3: Put First Things First
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand
Habit 6: Synergize
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Habit 1
Habit 2
Habit 3
Habit 4
Many people think in terms of either/or: either you’re nice or you’re tough. Win-win requires that you be both. It is a balancing act between courage and consideration. To go for win-win, you not only have to be empathic, but you also have to be confident. You not only have to be considerate and sensitive, you also have to be brave. To do that—to achieve that balance between courage and consideration—is the essence of real maturity and is fundamental to win-win.
Habit 5
A person or organization that approaches conflicts with a win-win attitude possesses three vital character traits:
Integrity: sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments
Maturity: expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas and feelings of others
Abundance Mentality: believing there is plenty for everyone
Habit 6
Habit 7 wikipedia-“The Last habit relates to self-rejuvenation Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable, long-term, effective lifestyle. It primarily emphasizes exercise for physical renewal, prayer (meditation, yoga, etc.) and good reading for mental renewal. It also mentions service to society for spiritual renewal. - ~ ~ ~
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1 “The ‘Inside-Out’ approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness means to start first with self; even more fundamentally, to start with the most inside part of self / with your paradigms, your character, and your motives. The inside-out approach says that private victories precede public victories, that making and keeping promises to ourselves recedes making and keeping promises to others. It says it is futile to put personality ahead of character, to try to improve relationships with others before improving ourselves.” – Stephen R. Covey
2 “As with physical exercise,” writes Dr. Covey, “those of us who say we haven’t the time for ‘spiritual aerobics’ are excuse making and will find ourselves, whenever the situation calls for strength beyond our reserve, incapacitated by self doubt, envy, jealousy, pride, fear, anger, bad tempers, all indicating a lack of spiritual oxygen.”Stephen R. Covey
3 Motivation Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.Stephen R. Covey Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.Stephen R. Covey
4 Freedom
5 Friendship -Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.Stephen R. Covey
6 Success-The best way to predict your future is to create it.Stephen R. Covey
7 Action-The best way you can predict your future is to create it.Stephen R. Covey
8 Thought-The environment you fashion out of your thoughts, your beliefs, your ideals, your philosophy is the only climate you will ever live in. The key is in not spending time, but in investing it.Stephen R. Covey
9 Life-The greatest risk is the risk of riskless living.Stephen R. Covey
10 Character= Our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.Stephen R. Covey
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Below are 10 (MORE) quotes from Stephen Covey that have the power to completely change the direction of one’s life came from an article in Forbes Magazine by Kevin Kruse Kevin Kruse is a NY Times bestselling author, serial entrepreneur, and keynote speaker. His new book, Employee Engagement 2.0, teaches managers how to turn apathetic groups into emotionally committed teams
1) The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.
2) The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
3) Live out of your imagination, not your history.
4) Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.
5) Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.
6) I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions.
7) You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. The enemy of the “best” is often the “good.”
8) I teach people how to treat me by what I will allow.
9) Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her.
10) Live, love, laugh, leave a legacy.
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Here’s how Covey expresses Spiritual Intelligence: - Integrity – Being true to one’s highest values and conscience
- Meaning – A sense of contribution to people and causes.
- Voice – Aligning work with one’s unique calling and gifts.
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Emeritus Professor of Management Science
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- ** Inside-Out
- ** Personality Versus Character Ethics
- ** Personality Ethic. Success is a function of personality, of public image, of attitudes and behaviors, skills and techniques, that lubricate the processes of human interaction.
- ** Character Ethic. Success depends on things like integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty, and the Golden Rule.
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- ** Primary Versus Secondary Greatness
- ** Primary Greatness. Goodness of character.
Secondary Greatness. Social recognition for talent. - ** Paradigm
- ** A model, theory, perception, assumption, or frame of reference. In a more general sense, it is the way we see the world in terms of perceiving, understanding, interpreting.
- ** Paradigm Categories:
- ** Realities. The way things are
- ** Values. The way things should be.
- ** The Principle-Centered Paradigm
- ** The Character Ethic is based on the fundamental idea that there are principles that govern human effectiveness.
- ** Principles Defined
- ** Principles are natural laws that can’t be broken.
- ** Principles are not esoteric, mysterious, or “religious” ideas.
- ** Principles are self-evident and may be validated.
- ** Principles are part of the human condition, part of human consciousness, and part of the human conscience.
- ** Principles are not practices.
- ** Principles are not values.
- ** Principles Enumerated
- ** Fairness
- ** Integrity/honesty
- ** Human dignity
- ** Quality/excellence
- ** Potential
- ** Growth
- ** Patience
- ** Nurturance
- ** Encouragement
- ** A New Level of Thinking
- ** Seven Habits of Highly Effective People is a principle-centered character-based inside-out approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness
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Habit 1 - Between Stimulus and Response-Frankl, a psychologist in the Freudian tradition, recognized that “between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.
- “Imagination — the ability to create in our minds beyond our present reality.
- Conscience — an inner awareness of right and wrong.
- Independent will — the ability to act based on self-awareness.
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- Taking the Initiative-Taking the initiative does not mean being pushy, obnoxious, or aggressive. It does mean recognizing our responsibility to make things happen.
- Circle of Concern/Circle of Influence-Where do you focus your time and energy? Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence.
Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern.
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THE SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Inside-Out Again-Deep Communication
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