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Emotional Security
Feelings of safety, confidence and freedom from apprehension.
EMOTIONAL SECURITY (wikipedia): “Emotional security gives us feelings of safety and confidence.”
Abraham Maslow describes an insecure person as a person who “perceives the world as a threatening jungle and most human beings as dangerous and selfish; feels a rejected and isolated person, anxious and hostile; is generally pessimistic and unhappy; shows signs of tension and conflict, tends to turn inward; is troubled by guilt-feelings, has one or another disturbance of self-esteem; tends to be neurotic; and is generally selfish and egocentric.” (Maslow, 1942, pp 35). He viewed in every insecure person a continual, never dying, longing for security. Alegre (2008).
A person who is insecure lacks confidence in their own value, and one or more of their capabilities, lacks trust in themselves or others, or has fears that a present positive state is temporary, and will let them down and cause them loss or distress by “going wrong” in the future. This is a common trait, which only differs in degree between people.
This is not to be confused with humility, which involves recognizing one’s shortcomings but still maintaining a healthy dose of self-confidence. Insecurity is not an objective evaluation of one’s ability but an emotional interpretation, as two people with the same capabilities may have entirely different levels of insecurity.
Psychology Dictionary
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Research Type Articles
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following are excerpts from article by Bruce SchneierEssay entitled The Psychology of Security The psychology of security is intimately tied to how we think: both intellectually and emotionally. Over the millennia, our brains have developed complex mechanisms to deal with threats. Understanding how our brains work, and how they fail, is critical to understanding the feeling of security.
PERCEPTIONS OF Experiencing SAFETY/Security MORE COMING SOON
People exaggerate risks that are :
Spectacular
Rare
Personified
Beyond their control, or externally imposed
Talked about
Intentional or man-made
Immediate
Sudden
Affecting them personally
New and unfamiliar
Uncertain
Well understood
Directed against their children
Directed towards themselves
Morally offensive
Entirely without redeeming features
Not like their current situation
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- ** •► “It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome.” William James
- ** •► “Common sense and a sense of humor are the same thing, moving at different speeds. A sense of humor is just common sense, dancing.” William James
- ** •► “If there is aught of good in the style, it is the result of ceaseless toil in rewriting. Everything comes out wrong with me at first; but when once objectified I can torture and poke and scrape and pat it till it offends me no more.” William James
- ** •► “Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.” William James
- ** •► “A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices.” William James
Psychologist and philosopher William James 1842-1910 is often referred to as the father of American psychology. His landmark textbook, The Principles of Psychology, is considered a classic text as is one of the most significant works in psychology history. In addition to his work as a teacher and researcher, James was also known as a writer of great eloquence. Wilhelm Wundt famously remarked that James’s Principles was beautiful
- ** ►• “Self-belief does not necessarily ensure success, but self-disbelief assuredly spawns failure.” From Self-efficacy: The exercise of control, 1997.by Albert BanduraAlbert Bandura is best known for his theory of self-efficacy and his work in social learning, including the famous “Bobo doll” experiment. In addition, Bandura served as President of the American Psychological Association in 1974 and continues to research and teach at Stanford University
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- ** •► “It is only after a reasonable sense of identity has been established that real intimacy with others can be possible. The youth who is not sure of his or her identity shies away from interpersonal intimacy, and can become, as an adult, isolated or lacking in spontaneity, warmth or the real exchange of fellowship in relationship to others; but the surer the person becomes of their self, the more intimacy is sought in the form of friendship, leadership, love and inspiration. The counterpart to intimacy is distantiation, which is the readiness to repudiate those forces and people whose essence seems dangerous to one’s own.”(Erik Erikson;Identity and the Life Cycle, 1959)
- ** •► “Hope is both the earliest and the most indispensable virtue inherent in the state of being alive. If life is to be sustained hope must remain, even where confidence is wounded, trust impaired.” (The Erik Erikson Reader, 2000)
- ** •► “Will, therefore, is the unbroken determination to exercise free choice as well as self-restraint, in spite of the unavoidable experience of shame and doubt in infancy.” (The Erik Erikson Reader, 2000)
Erik H. Erikson (1902-1994) was a German-born psychoanalyst who became one of the most famous and influential thinkers of the twentieth century. He is best known for his well-known psychosocial theory of development and for coining the term identity crisis. In addition to holding teaching positions at Harvard, the University of California-Berkeley, and Yale, he also wrote a number of popular books including The Life Cycle Completed and Identity: Youth and Crisis
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- ** ►•All fearful reactions are simply a case of “mistaken identity.” Guy Finley
- ** ►• In today’s world, the security of every one of us is linked to that of everyone else. Kofi Atta Annan
- ** ►• Security represents your sense of worth, your identity, your emotional anchorage, your self-esteem, your basic personal strength or lack of it. Stephen R. Covey
- ** ►• Life is a mirror, and will reflect back to the thinker what he thinks into it. Ernest Holmes
- ** ►•The more you seek security, the less of it you have. But the more you seek opportunity, the more likely it is that you will achieve the security that you desire. Brain Tracy
- ** ►• Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security. John Allen Paulos
- ** •► by Marianne Williamson …Maturity includes the recognition that no one is going to see anything in us that we don’t see in ourselves. Stop waiting for a producer. Produce yourself.
- ** •► by Marianne Williamson … As we let our light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others.
- ** •► by Marianne Williamson …Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.
- ** ►• Today I forgive everyone and accept forgiveness by everyone. I know the eternal Spirit harbors no malice toward me or anyone else. Forgiving and being forgiven, I have an inward sense of peace and tranquility. There is no anxiety, no sense of guilt, no fear of judgment. All mistakes of the past are now wiped out in my consciousness and I no longer carry any burden from them. I look forward to the future with joy, in peace and gladness, and live in the present day with an inner assurance of being one with all life. Ernest Holmes
- ** Abraham Quote Appreciation and self-love are the most important tools that you could ever nurture. Appreciation of others, and the appreciation of yourself is the closest vibrational match to your Source Energy of anything that we’ve ever witnessed anywhere in the Universe.
Education
- ** •► “The principal goal of education is to create men who are capable of doing new things, not simply of repeating what other generations have done—men who are creative, inventive, and discovers. The second goal of education is to form minds which can be critical, can verify, and not accept everything they are offered.” (From remarks at a conference on cognitive development Jean Piaget at Cornell University, 1964)
- ** •► “What the genetic epistemology proposes is discovering the roots of the different varieties of knowledge, since its elementary forms, following to the next levels, including also the scientific knowledge.” (Jean Piaget;Genetic Epistemology, 1968)
Jean Piaget 1896-1980 was a Swiss developmental psychologist and genetic epistemologist. Through his studies of his own three children, Piaget developed a theory of cognitive development that described a series of stages of intellectual development that children go through as they mature. Prior to Piaget, people tended to think of children as simply small versions of adults. His work introduced the idea that children’s thinking was fundamentally different than that of adults
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