“God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say ‘thank you’?” William A. Ward
Appreciation is the highest form of prayer, for it acknowledges the presence of good wherever you shine the light of your thankful thoughts. Alan Cohen
“Neither a lofty degree of intelligence nor imagination nor both together go to the making of genius. Love, Love, Love, that is the soul of genius”.
Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart
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“First have love in your heart; then do whatever you want” |
Hem your blessings with thankfulness so they don’t unravel. author unknown |
Autonomy IS A BEAUTIFUL THING
*(~excerpts from article by Jay Earley, PhD)Developing Autonomy~)* / Experiment with asserting your autonomy. Work on knowing what you think, feel, and want, even when it is different from other people. Practice the following behaviors: Set limits when you need to. Express your desires or opinions. Stand your ground when others disagree or push their perspective. Recognize that other people may not always like what you say or do, and take the risk to do it anyway.
As you practice being autonomous,[a] part may fear that you are being unpleasant or unnecessarily aggressive because it isn't used to this. Reassure it that you are just taking care of yourself, and that’s OK.
What Does Cooperation Look Like by Jay Early,PhD
People Pleasing is really an extreme version of Cooperation. If you have a Cooperation Pattern, you can work with others smoothly without giving up your way of doing things. You like to be part of a group, but only if you can truly be yourself.
You are interested in other people’s thoughts and feelings, and you can assert your own. You can be receptive or autonomous (or both) depending on what the situation needs. You like to empower others, but not at your own expense. You want to resolve conflict, not avoid it. You like to make other people feel good, but you don’t ignore your own needs, thoughts, or desires in the process.
In short, you can cooperate without automatically complying. This is because your motivation for cooperating comes from a desire for connection or accomplishment, not from a need to please.
Many people think in terms of either/or: either you’re nice or you’re tough. Win-win requires that you be both. It is a balancing act between courage and consideration. To go for win-win, you not only have to be empathic, but you also have to be confident. You not only have to be considerate and sensitive, you also have to be brave. To do that-to achieve that balance between courage and consideration—is the essence of real maturity and is fundamental to win-win Stephen Covey
BE YOU