Today is January  4, 2023 … a brand new year, a brand new month, brand new day and yes yes yes … a brand new moment.

For many, you are experiencing a ‘luxury’ of your foundation remaining the same …the basics that is.

Why do I say a luxury? If you are someone who knows how fortunate … how blessed you are in any given moment , then you most probably are benefiting from a state of gratitude every day.

You most probably are choosing to expound on the good you have and co-creating it to greater ideal in at least some major areas of your life. You enjoy your passionate life.
You also understand the value of your inner world - which does in fact assist greatly in creating your outer world.

Though, if you  are among the many that have had major changes in your life, and starting fresh is more of a reality than you ever planned for …more profound if you will, then either way this Happiness Meeting is for you .

Though, lastly … though not least… if you have difficulty with gratitude and/ or optimism… I invite you to grow your joy and possibilities also with this fresh new meeting of 2023

 

So what is this topic - It’s Learned  Optimism & Resiliency

 Learned Optimism  originated from Positive Psychology; Dr Martin Seligman.

 

 The rest of this Intro has been created in quotes . I invite you please to read them in story form & then allow this Happiness Meeting to be whatever you would like it to be.

Intro post being where you are- continue reading please

Then please go to This Link to post 2 

Finally this link to post 3

 

 

You choose a great life
You are loving the life you choose

Reflection Questions To Ponder

• Lopez and Snyder speak of what’s

called key protective individual factors
Lets use them in the first question to do a mini self inventory.

 Scan your idea of yourself/Think & Feel /

in the following areas & write what matters to you.

 

• • Positive self-image;
  • Problem-solving skills;
  • Self-regulation;
  • Adaptability;
  • Faith/understanding the meaning and one’s purpose;
  • Positive outlook;
  • Skills and talents that are valued by self and community;
  • General acceptance by others.

2. After you allow a personal assessment without judgement / create affirmations to assist you in observing, allowing, meeting , creating  , and elevating yourself to a place from

your spirit

which sees you just that way when you are not viewing yourself from a restrictive standpoint.

Sense your most resilient delightful understanding of your mind, body and spirit 

Create more questions of your own and/ or allow these thoughts/ questions to work for you 
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 inspiration 

 

 

Andrea Bell is a Clinical Social Worker, Social Worker

Quote by Andrea Bell “Someone who has good emotional self-regulation has the ability to keep their emotions in check. They can resist impulsive behaviors that might worsen their situation, and they can cheer themselves up when they’re feeling down. They have a flexible range of emotional and behavioral responses that are well matched to the demands of their environment”

 

 

You find it easy to recognize your  positive qualities

Intro post 2 of 3

You choose to love your nicely coordinated lifestyle. You love your choices in daily life.

intro post 3 of 3

This of course, is not to say you

have not been pretty terrific …already 

and your experiences

are ones that you wouldn’t want to cherish. 

oh no!!!

It does say:

To keep moving forward we are allowing other parts of our selves to develop and be seen by ourselves .

 

 

 

Joy Is Ours For The Allowing

Learned Optimism and Resiliency

Very beautiful and inspiring topic to explore!

Thank you for your powerful focus questions. 

These questions are designed to take you straight to the epi-center of where you are, in this moment. 

• Positive self-image:
• Problem solving:
• Self regulation:
• Adaptability:
• Faith/ understanding meaning and one's purpose:
• Positive outlook:
• Skills and talents that are valued by self and community:
• Acceptance by others:

 

Will return to begin inventory!

Learned self optimism is self empowering. It's the main ingredient in self care.

It is sourced when you begin to take care and listen to what your mind, body and spirit are communicating to you.

Today, I really needed a brake, but I had so many things to do, and time was getting away. I just needed 5 minutes! Part of self regulation means listening and respecting your limits and your needs. There are many things that fall under the self regulation umbrella. 

In response to ♡ ˚W/Fun & Joy =Productivity Ease's post:

post in process

 

• Positive self-image

The six dimensions of a person’s self-image are:

Physical

________

I was beautiful, I am beautiful and I will always be beautiful

I take very good care of myself

The  happier I am, the more beautiful I become

Everyone is

one-of-a-kind

and so am I

therefore

God’s beautiful

handiwork 

made no one else like me

&

there never will be. I value my uniqueness.

 

________

Psychological

I love/loved my spouse more than any part of me can understand, and I am eternally filled with love now..”

I always lift myself up and focus on the positive.
I choose to know I can re-build my life & myself !

I love/loved my spouse more than any part of me can understand, and I am eternally filled with love now.

________

Intellectual dimension:

Intellectually I value my ability to have learned to learn 

________

Skills dimension

 

________

Moral dimension

 

________

Sexual dimension

________

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• Problem-solving skills;
• Self-regulation;
• Adaptability;
• Faith/understanding the meaning and one’s purpose;
• Positive outlook;
• Skills and talents that are valued by self and community;
• General acceptance by others.

 

Affirmations

“I am centered and calm. Information flows to me.”
“I understand what is needed. I know what I need to do.”
“My focus is clear. My attention flows to one thing at a time.”
“I focus on this task only. This task is easy.”
“I take joy in doing one thing at a time.”
“Clarity”
“Focus”

 

 

Thoughts

Feelings

in process

 

So many things go into creating a good life. The mere scan helps me clear my emotional table to see how I would like to best set it - in this fresh new moment.

regarding :

• Positive self-image;
• Problem-solving skills;
• Self-regulation;
• Adaptability;
• Faith/understanding the meaning and one’s purpose;
• Positive outlook;
• Skills and talents that are valued by self and community;
• General acceptance by others.

1)Positive self-image

I claim all of my feelings as valuable because I am a true friend to myself.

 

2) Problem-solving skills;

I feel peaceful about  learning

I enjoy the process as well as the awesome resolve

I love how all aspects of a challenge become an opportunity for my spiritual growth.

I  am ready for the ideal solutions

Everything is happening as it needs to for myself and others, because the Creator is working a perfect work

I sense well being

I feel well-being

I am loving all the answers coming my way

I am thankful and appreciative

 

3)Self-regulation;

 

My deep emotions, intelligence, sensations, relationships, and spirituality are beautiful and just right in a space that supports me as I am.

All that does not serve me, easily passes from me

I appreciate myself and my sensitivity more and more now

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4)Adaptability;

 

You appreciate each moment.

I efficiently transition into each new activity, fully knowing and trusting that my consciousness will adapt, overcome, and enjoy each present circumstance.

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5)Faith/understanding the meaning and one’s purpose;

My faith operates in at least five levels:

faith in Higher Power…I call God,

faith in myself,

faith in this moment,

faith in others

and faith in tomorrow

or the future

 

 

 

 

 

 

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6)Positive outlook;

My present optimistic consciousness and my own happy energy are my greatest success

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7)Skills and talents that are valued by self

and community;

I have aquired the vital skills of how to rest in God, and letting go and enjoying life

→   Your manifestation skills are divine. You know exactly what to think, to get exactly what you want. Everytime you focus on something you want, it flows into your life, with Infinite abundance. The universe is amazingly clever.

→   Your manifestation skills are divine. You know exactly what to think, to get exactly what you want. Everytime you focus on something you want, it flows into your life, with Infinite abundance. The universe is amazingly clever.

 

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8)General acceptance by others.

 

 

You are a joyful beautiful soul who shares what you are loving and enjoys being shared with.

 

I maintain balance between my personal sacred growing truths and those which belong to others.

Ahhh... What a great moment this is!!!

I follow my own true purpose with blessed clarity of mind.

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Quote Re: others

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• Positive self-image;
• Problem-solving skills;
• Self-regulation;
• Adaptability;
• Faith/understanding the meaning and one’s purpose;
• Positive outlook;
• Skills and talents that are valued by self and community;
• General acceptance by others.

 

 

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In response to Joy Grows here's post: I realize JGH, you have yet to post, though please allow me to say I am so happy you are here to create what you value. Though, beyond this meeting, let me state how enthusiastic I am for you and your many personally meaningful  goals and aspirations  that have continuously been blossoming for you. Unique word ... blossoming ... though that's how I feel when I think of your many paths

you have worked,

grown thru

and prospered on many levels.

I know All  has occurred with your tremendous faith, integrity, passion, self care, and awesome footwork!

Congratulations for choosing to always be yourself and being open to the things that really matter. You continue to be an inspiration -to anyone who knows you. Keep on going Joy Grows Here, or should I just say Go For It!

In response to ♡ ˚W/Fun & Joy =Productivity Ease's post:

Thank you!

I appreciate all of the good, and I am very excited for the fantastic work that this next year will produce...

Thank you for all that you do to be supportive of me and my dreams... 

Thank you for posting this amazing meeting! Excellent questions!

Emotions Flow

 

Emotions flow

Like a rainbow of colors

From light to dark

All sublime and intertwined

Each one desperately

Wanting to be heard

I let them

Have their say

my heart listens

To each one

And when they

Are finally done

I salute them

One by one

For they are me.

In response to Poppy's post:

So perfect for acceptance/

 so very perfect for this meeting

Words for experience of

Learned Optimism&Resiliency

are difficult … though once again you did it with your beautiful poetry .

I could feel  self compassion and it gave

as a gift.

 

Thank you for sharing .

 

 

 

In response to Joy Grows here's post:

this reminded me of your focus /intentions/ drive / passion

 

 

In response to ♡ ˚W/Fun & Joy =Productivity Ease's post:

Thank you! 

Passion fuels determination...

Determination is uncompromising...

You must have enormous inner strength in order to stay focused and so committed that the only solution, the only possible outcome is absolute success.

In response to Joy Grows here's post:

Absolutely JGH!

Motivation is such a powerful energy.

Without it, the very same things carried out without it , will get in the way of all beautiful possibilities. You are an excellent example of doing what it takes with the passion & drive to make it  from the heart with soul and using all your capabilities.

 

The best kind of happiness is a habit

you are passionate about.
Shannon L. Alder

 

 

 

 

 

..the key to daily practice is to put your desired actions as close to the path of least resistance as humanly possible. Identify the activation energy—the time, the choices, the mental and physical effort they require—and then reduce it. If you can cut the activation energy for those habits that lead to success, even by as little as 20 seconds at a time, it won’t be long before you start reaping their benefits.

Article link -Happiness verses Optimism

 

 

Quote -

Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.

 

In response to ♡ ˚W/Fun & Joy =Productivity Ease's post: In response to ♡ ˚W/Fun & Joy

=Productivity Ease's post: 

 

 

I really enjoy and LOVE my life, as it is right now.

I like who I am, and I like who I am becoming!

I take loving care of myself and I LOVE taking care of my needs and wants!

My Top Priority is creating the routines which support my highest values.

Affirmations 

►•I listen to my body and heed its needs.
►•I thank my body for my continued well-being.
►•I send love and appreciation to all the cells of my body.
►•My body maintains itself in perfect health.
►•My whole body vibrates with optimum health and energy.
►•My body thanks me for looking after it.

 

 

This thread will continue for awhile / a page 2 has been created for overflow

link to page 2 

http://bmindful.com/forum/thread/16955/happiness-meeting-pg2of-2a-journey-for-your-senses 

In response to Joy Grows here's post

THE BEST!

WELL DONE TO SAY THE LEAST! AND I LOVE THAT SONG!

 

Whether you think you can or you think you can't, you're right. -Henry Ford

 

I sit motionless

Upon a flower

 

I can fly

But I dare not

My wings are

Useless

 

It is complicated 

Beyond mere words

Part of me 

Can’t let go

 

And yet I so

Want to fly

 

Flexing my wings

To full open

 

I think?

Do I go?

Do I Stay?  

 

Will I  

Fly once again

Oh! yes I will

 

The sweet nectar 

Of  optimism 

Is just a thought away. 

 

 

 

In response to Poppy's post:

Thank you , that’s beautiful!

In response to Poppy's post: So affirming!

Will I

Fly once again

Oh! yes I will

 

The sweet nectar

Of  optimism

Is just a thought away.

Affirmations:

All perceived obstacles are now understood as the tremendous ways I overcame them.

Every day all that creates proud feelings for me surfaces in my thoughts and feelings in the best of ways.

 

Brand New suggested Reflection  Questions  in process

& coming soon if you desire 💗

1. After reading the following quote , write how this reinforces some of your highest values. 

Life is a journey; It’s one of the most famous phrases that we hear in our life. It’s true because, in life, we face many heartaches. And also many more joys which make our heart pleasant. It’s not a destination for happiness or sadness but its continuous journey to experience every aspect of this life.To know it much better,

dpsayings.com

 

2.Apparently the following is a semi-popular quote. I hadnt heard of it though appreciate it:

You had a purpose before anyone had an opinion. – Anonymous 

How does that quote affect your feelings toward your purpose ?

 

 

 

 

3. After reading the following quote, please take your time … and comment on what you are feeling? Thank You 

“So, this is my life. And I want you to know that I am both happy and sad and I’m still trying to figure out how that could be.” – Stephen Chbosky

4.  When you feel the following quote pic / what surfaces for you? 

 

 

Thank You 

In response to ♡ ˚ Path of Love's post:

Thank you for adding these questions. 

Thank you for your openness and your willingness to share how you are doing.

Your words have helped me, and I believe your words have helped many others, and in your words, you have become a teacher, a leader and an advocate whose experience has touched all who are close to you. 

There is much to learn and much purpose in this growth.

I like inventory questions...

I would like to start with your #3, the hard question:

Happy and sad... "still trying to figure out how that can be."

I look at my life, and I never wonder "how that can be," because its been my life long understanding that life is complex, and when you are in a happy spot, it supports my belief that life has balance, life has challenges, and not everything is going to come easy. Sometimes, you have to work really hard, maybe for most of your adult life - just so you can have time, when you need it the most, to look back and see how much you built and created and also how you built and created who you are, and what you became.

I think we are all artists.

I think we are all creating with everything that we have and everything that we believe we are.

We did create who we became. Happy and sad are like day turning into night. They are inseparable because they are like opposite sides of the same coin - or the same single system. 

 

In response to Joy Grows here's post:

Thank you JoyGrowsHere!

Thank you for acknowledging me, as I find words in my here & now experience 

Thank you for your kind words and thoughts. 

Thank you for being so open & honest as you always are - It helps us all with the process to do the same.

Looking  forward to continuing ‘this inner inventory ‘ and looking forward to your continued responses .

In response to Joy Grows here's post:

Btw Joy Grows Here 

you have been instrumental in my remembering passion in a variety of goals 

And like Jack Canfield says :

if you think you can’t, remember a time when you have had personal triumphs in another area.

So thank you for sharing what matters to you 

 

1 more from Jack Canfield 

"Change is inevitable in life. You can either resist it and potentially get run over by it, or you can choose to cooperate with it, adapt to it, and learn how to benefit from it. When you embrace change you will begin to see it as an opportunity for growth." ~ Jack Canfield