♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 07/08/2022. Last edited on 21/08/2022.

Happiness Meeting 2nd Week Aug’22/Allowing & Accepting Change

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  The. C word , yup , change.

Change, I have found change

[by me ] (:

is not changing ‘everything’. Though for me it is about:

1. Allowing good  and allowing that good to be left as the gift it us , though to get continuous revision by my Creator
2. I let go of what no longer serves 
3. It is good to consistently change what you can in the time you have available… Doesn’t have to be the big boulders and it definitely doesn’t have to be all by yourself. Though little things give confidence to increase all that you do. And the little things are the daily stepping stones that create the magnificent.
4. It is wonder to be incredibly selective with people, places and things… because you can control that.
5. It is wonderful to take care of yourself because the benefits of taking care of yourself are the elements which create every other wonderful thing… helps all else function.
6. Do not underrate action. Perfectionism will keep you stuck. Change what you can.
7. Use the ‘bad’ experiences you have had not as reasons to be hurt or stuck … though for the boot camp that allowed you to grow and give you something you wouldn’t have had.
8. Thank You God for giving me another wonderful day and directing me in great ways with what to do with it. Thank you for giving me the mental emotional spiritual physical stamina to lead a life you are directing. Thanks for giving me the lesson, that I must do my part in life and giving me all that I need to do that well. I believe You that You have given me what I need, I will do my part today with ease, love, and joy, and the kind of energy that allows room to make a plan in my spirit, my minds eye and on paper.
   blessings to all.
   Amen 
   -to be continued…

   What worked for me today:

    

    

   is

changing what I can

and before I know it I tuned everything else out

and I was in the glow of flow.

So grateful!

What worked for me today:

to be continued…

What worked for me today:

to be continued ( posted here or elsewhere) (:

Better

we are always better

we are good now

we are always growing better

why does that matter ?

because we want more

We are always more 

Though we are so good now

Know better as a mantra 

and it just means 

you haven’t closed the Door

on being who you already are

you are

allowing the best

from yourself 

the best that already is part of you 

& more than you 

because you are created by

Perfection 

Today  my ideal action begins with that of complete surrendering.

My decisions and actions are influenced by my positive belief in my abilities and the Power of Love from my Creator

            Surrendering starts each fresh new moment off as the best moment of ones life..

            I let everything go and enjoy the sweet surrender.

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 08/08/2022. Last edited on 21/08/2022.

Affirmations 

→   I love who I was, am, and will be

→Today...my  path, my pace, the process that is revealed to me

are all mine to own

Grateful beyond my previous scope of Gratitude

and I  have allowed utter peace and joy

when feeling good about it all.ღ

→   I AM

EASILY

ABLE TO CREATE

A LIFE I WANT Greater than I could have ever planned

or done alone.

Changing what I can:

Today I realize it is a privilege to change anything I can, so I will. 
I will prepare well to keep things as simple as possible.

I like simple.

I like ease.

I like appreciating.

I am seventy and one years old. I started like all infants completely dependent on others. I belonged to a small tribe. A mother, a father, and two older brothers. My tribe expanded when my baby sister was born and I was four. Like most children, I did what I was told without much resistance. I was told what to do and how to interact in most situations. 

I didn’t question things, I conformed. It was not until my early teens that I started realizing that other families were quite different from mine. My world was expanding. Still I was generally compliant with my parents and their view of societal norms. It wasn’t until my senior year in high school that I had to register for the draft and was reclassified 1A before I graduated. In April I received a letter from Uncle Sam to take my physical for the Army. It was at that point I had to become accountable for my decisions and life. Although I had not yet graduated from H.S. I immediately joined the Navy hoping they would allow me to graduate before I had to leave home. It is not until you realize who you are and what you want to do that you become yourself and break free from societal and familial expectations. Then you are able to cultivate accountability for yourself. A problem occurs when time passes. We are constantly growing, learning and changing. Our world also changes. The change that takes place is often slow but at times it can be abrupt. Who you are changes, as does what you want to do. I am currently approaching a significant change  in my life and I need time to reflect and redefine who I am and what I want to do. 

Have you ever thought your world has turned upside down and you don’t know which way is up. It is such a disorientation. I have found myself that way in different circumstances. I am quite certain there are countless things that throw others off balance. How does one right their world? Everyone and their situations are different. Sometimes they are beyond one’s comprehension. Sadness, confusion, and fear often thwart one’s progress in moving forward. 

I agree totally with ease in all decisions/moments  “It is good to consistently change what you can in the time you have available...Doesn’t have to be the big boulders and it definitely doesn’t have to be all by yourself. It does mean to take care of yourself because the benefits are the major gift that help everything else function.”

Our creator gave us gifts. The one overriding gift is pure love. When we give that pure love to ourselves, we nurture ourselves (our body,mind,spirit)so we can share our love with others in everything we do. Change is then more easily accepted and softened by our limitless heart love. 

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 09/08/2022.

In response to Poppy's post:

First, I would like to say, so wonderfully glad , that you have shared from your life, your inner being as you have … as you always do.

Your love and kindness shines thru all you have posted, and always post. I realize sometimes you may not think it is so powerfully  so… because humility is also one of your beautiful traits(:

Now to share along with you … in response to everything and especially:

Our creator gave us gifts. The one overriding gift is pure love.

When we give that pure love to ourselves, we nurture ourselves (our body,mind,spirit)so we can share our love with others in everything we do.

Change is then more easily accepted

and softened

by our limitless

heart love.

Amen

and May this be a present moment that we feel that love,

we are that love

acknowledge that love 

..,that we are that courage

….& we allow our Creator

to be our Strength

and Guidance

 & that we 
keep giving

to ourselves

as compassionately

and completely

now

and always…

1 moment at a time …

1 day at a time …

with everything we understand

and receive what we need

& to go beyond 

We are worth it,

and so are others

we have given to

and will continue to allow ourselves to give

in ways that benefit 

and 

may the ripple effect

of love forever 

be 

evident

and  sometimes … as things are not so evident…

though we know

that we know

Love Prevails everywhere 

With

faith,

trust

and belief

love prevails .

Thank You Thank You Thank you   

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 09/08/2022.

In response to Poppy's post:

Now I would most definitely like to respond to this part of your post

Have you ever thought your world has turned upside down and you don’t know which way is up. It is such a disorientation. I have found myself that way in different circumstances. I am quite certain there are countless things that throw others off balance. How does one right their world? Everyone and their situations are different. Sometimes they are beyond one’s comprehension. Sadness, confusion, and fear often thwart one’s progress in moving forward.

In times like these -

For me, it has been helpful to understand

newness.. is new. … what it is and the rate and diverse ways it presents.

every now and then ,

there is this rhythm in the new season

and I can

believe

more than I ever remember

the Almighty does in fact have a plan

and it will serve and whatever/ whomever comes up

I still need to pace myself to allow for everyday experiences.

Its like going to a new land

and you know you just may have somewhere

to be and a time to arrive

….so it might be a good idea to figure out a bit about where you are(: lol

It does come … this rhythm

 more as time  ‘does its thing’

(recognizing there is no correct time) (:

and we allow and ‘work with it’ anyway.

this new ‘thing’

… this pace you make friends with it 

Making any part of experience an enemy - doesn’t work.

Experiences are not things we can control… they are things to love yourself thru them all… and make friends with even things we don’t like. Working with things we resist will just come back and decide to play another way …

My goal is to love… feel… and create and change what I can.

It really helps to  be mindful of self and  needs

and make what you ‘require’

a wonderful area you look forward to taking part in(:

In response to ♡ ˚ease in all decisions/moments's post:

This is a beautiful happiness meeting! Thank you for sharing this... I am very grateful for all of the good that I get out of these meetings... I look forward to experiencing how these meetings seem to get to whatever is the most relevant at this moment for me.

In response to Poppy's post:

Hi Poppy,

Thank you for sharing...

I agree, change is constant, and significant life change is more complex.

In response to ♡ ˚ease in all decisions/moments's post: 

Loved: "Experiences are not things we can control… they are things to love yourself thru..."

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 09/08/2022.

In response to Poppy's post:

This reminded me of what I absolutely love

though even more reinforced

after the joy of 

reading your post 

In response to Joy Grows here's post: In response to Joy Grows here's post: 

So glad you are here Kathi. 
I would imagine my theme more than ever … has been

to love myself thru it. I am so glad that does a good thing for you too!

It has been quite a miraculous tool these days

… that love thing (:

And yup I too am anticipating another transformational Happiness Meeting.

All it takes is a topic that resonates, and individuals who love to love one another and 

&

looking forward to loving

their lives

in ways

they get out of the way …

and become

joyfully surprised by.

That’s my take (:

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 09/08/2022.

In response to Poppy's post:

It is not until you realize who you are and what you want to do that you become yourself and break free from societal and familial expectations.

Then you are able to cultivate accountability for yourself.

A problem occurs when time passes.

We are constantly growing, learning and changing.

Our world also changes.

The change that takes place is often slow but at times it can be abrupt.

Who you are changes, as does what you want to do.

I am currently approaching a significant change  in my life and I need time to reflect and redefine who I am and what I want to do. 

I want to thank you for this, I am using your words, Poppy to meditate on, for my life changes. Thank You.

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 10/08/2022.

In response to ♡ ˚ease in all decisions/moments's post:

Poppy, this is awesome:

is not until you realize who you are

and what you want to do

that you become yourself

and break free

Then you are able to cultivate accountability for yourself.

I always believed I was completely accountable for myself. I was .

It just changed what I became accountable for after my loss.

 I realized even more

just how much I partnered with my partner(:

Now I am thinking for 1 … by 1. Very different than the connection I grew to love and enjoy.

To me, at least for me… in this moment being a widow is not being not-married or single. It’s the totality of all I was and all I will be… in a very new way.

So much of my likes and dislikes were shared with my spouse .. Things I would ‘ve never known or preferred if it wasn’t for him, and vise versa .My history is being married. My going forward is still ‘all I have been’ No changes. We encouraged one another to be our authentic selves … so I am still me. I just lost a huge part of what brought out the best in me.

I choose to remember what I loved … what I love about me, and  what mattered to us both.

I choose to engage in life not as 1/2 a soulmate … though as a fully loved woman and  someone who loved well … and will continue to.

It hasn’t been easy , though I choose to do what comes easy… And grow out of my comfort zone to learn more about myself. Without growth who are we?

In response to ♡ ˚easier & easier each moment's post:”Without growth who are we?” In a word, Zombies! 

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 10/08/2022. Last edited on 11/08/2022.

In response to Poppy's post:

Yes, so true.

If you would grow

to your best self 

Be patient, not demanding

Accepting, not condemning

Nurturing, not withholding

Self-marveling, not belittling

Gently guiding, not pushing and punishing

For you are more sensitive than you know

Mankind is as tough as war yet delicate as flowers

We can endure agonies but we open fully only to warmth and light

And our need to grow is as fragile as a fragrance

Dispersed by storms of will

To return only when those storms are still

So, accept, respect, attend your sensitivity

A flower cannot be opened with a hammer.

Daniel F. Mead

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 11/08/2022.

Allowing & Accepting Change

Questions For Your Consideration 

I usually write sone questions, from the heart.

Here are some:

1. a. What does this very moment feel like?

     b. Can you sit with it and let it be?

2. How do you feel about the thought of tomorrow?

What do thoughts of tomorrow feel like?

Can you let tomorrow just be?

3.  a. Do you remember a peaceful moment about today? 
     b. What does peace feel like to you?

     c. Are you comfortable with peace or do you try to make it more?

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 11/08/2022.

In response to ♡ ˚ Being

1. a. What does this very moment feel like?

   This feeling just is, and I am letting it. I am tempted to ask it questions, though

I want to give it room to feel its very sacred space that belongs to no one, nothing … just it.

I am choosing to allow it.

.  a. Do you remember a peaceful moment about today? 

yes.

I loved the feelings I got after writing out a detailed plan for a challenging focus.

I felt peaceful, accomplished and hopeful 
     b. What does peace feel like to you?

Peace feels like it’s just the right place to be

     c. Are you comfortable with peace or do you try to make it more?

I am quite comfortable with peace.

I do feel engaging with it like it’s a best friend.

3. How do you feel about the thought of tomorrow?

What do thoughts of tomorrow feel like?

Can you let tomorrow just be?

will return

In response to ♡ ˚ Allowing Inner Peace's post:

1. a.This moment feels really good. I just finished tidying up the kitchen, grocery shopping, and doing two loads of laundry. I’m now sitting like a frog on a log croaking at the moon. 

         b. Oh YES! I can sit and be just me. 

2. I am excited about tomorrow. I see my PT and she will beat me until I’m a relaxed puddle of buttery mush. There is nothing better than buttery mush. I intend to do nothing or everything according to my every whim. I can definitely let it be. G

3.  a. Do you remember a peaceful moment about today? I really felt at peace today when I re- read 15 pieces of writing I had completed and organized them telling my story the past ten years. 
     b. What does peace feel like to you? My story put me at ease. It made me realize I have a great capacity to feel deeply and own my feelings even when they are sad to the point of tragic. 

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 11/08/2022.

In response to Poppy's post:

I love it!!!!

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 11/08/2022.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=W6md_HlwmOM 

Love and life are one.

I choose

to live my life

from the inspired place

I have always known,

and allow life to be continuously revealed to me 

in new ways as I always have 

Only now

I know 

new 

on a new level

& I choose to make friends with 

New and 

not treat it like 

it’s come to dismantle my being

I ask each day to progress with life 

with a refurbished heart of mine 

that only knows love

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 11/08/2022.

To accept change , one has to be willing to do the necessary actions that come with change.

I really like Sarah Dresser

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=maTTJf7rXtI

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 11/08/2022.

In response to Therapy Lake's post:

nice to see you here Therapy Lake

Joy is definitely a keeper!

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Posted on 12/08/2022.

Great affirmation by Louise Hay

I choose to handle all my experiences

with Love,

and with joy

and

with ease.

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 14/08/2022.

I visualize my wonderful day every day.

My awareness has led to desire, and desire has led to increased action
and

I accept

all the actionable work

that is absolutely necessary

for me to do

every single day.

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 14/08/2022.

This moment is filled with joy. I now choose to experience the sweetness of today.”

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 15/08/2022.

I feel my mind

being

mentally

Physically

spiritually

cleansed

and enjoyed

so that

my new way

of experiencing

that is perfect

for me

is now

being created.

In response to ♡ ˚ Joyfully Getting Things ✅ Done's post:

Great affirmation

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 16/08/2022.

In response to Mr Brightside's post:

thank you. It has been truly helpful (:

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 17/08/2022.

Today I am grateful for all of my experiences, it led me to

moment by moment

greater

peace,

progress ,

gratitude ,appreciation

and clarity.

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 17/08/2022. Last edited on 21/08/2022.

BEING VERSUS DOING

I have taken action

and I have recognized

how I want

to move ahead

& I AM

&

that there

is no reward

not to)

thank you thank you thank You

Love this list of

What is Self-Care?

1. Physical Self-Care
2. Mental/Emotional Self-Care
3. Intellectual Self-Care
4. Social Self-Care
5. Spiritual Self-Care
6. Financial Self-Care

♡ ˚ choosing well  

Posted on 23/08/2022.

Your past experience Your time has not been wasted and your efforts have not been in vain. Everything has brought you to where you are now, and this is a very good place to be. From here, you can move forward in whatever direction you choose. Now, you can put your wisdom, your experience and even your regrets to positive, purposeful use. The portion of your life over which you have full control begins right now. No matter where you’ve come from, now is your opportunity to choose precisely where you wish to go. It’s easy to get caught up in thoughts of what could have been, or to fall into discouragement about what didn’t work out. Your best option, though, is to focus on the best of what can be and on enthusiastically stepping forward to make it happen. You are surrounded by a universe that’s filled with great possibilities. Take all of your past experience and put it to work in creating a future of excellence and fulfillment. Whatever the past has been, it has also been very good to you, because it has delivered you here. Now, take that good fortune and put it to good use. _{☼ Ralph Marston}