Personal power and the characteristics of high ego-strength?

In contrast, a person with well-developed ego-strength is resilient, optimistic, and has a strong sense of self as capable in handling challenges. They more often:

• Take a learning approach to life that increasingly grows their strength and confidence in handling triggering situations.
• Have an ability to tolerate discomfort, enough to regulate their emotions as opposed to feeling overwhelmed by them.
• Approach life overall with a curiosity and readiness to explore and to master what strengthens them, thus, increasing their chances of finding new ways of coping with challenges.
• Treat self and others as having inner resources to deal with challenges.
• Do not personalize what others say or do, and regard self and other as human beings, thus, fallible.
• Give others ownership for exacerbating or solving their own problems, as necessary.
• Exude an overall confidence in self and others to use their resources to handle and resolve life issues.

The stronger the ego-strength, the more comfortable one feels in taking ownership of their problems, and giving ownership to others for theirs.

A healthy ego-strength is connected to a healthy self-concept, one that is resilient, thus can look at a situation and see beyond it, understand the difference between wants and needs, and practices acceptance to discern between what can and cannot be changed, to respond accordingly.

Why a healthy ego is essential to health and happiness?

A healthy ego gives us the needed ego-strength to navigate challenging moments, and emotions of vulnerability rooted in fear and anxiety, with ease and resilience. It is an essential skill in the formation of healthy emotional intimacy in couple relationships.

Unlike weak ego-strength, we are less likely to personalize what others say or do, and more likely to accept our self and others as human beings who have a right to make mistakes, and to grow their own problem solving abilities in the process – by making and learning from mistakes. It’s very basic to how healthy human beings learn.

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