Hello...New Here :)

Just wanted to finally introduce myself. I’ve been lurking for a bit.

I was led to this forum through a posting on another forum. And the timing couldn’t have been more impeccable. I am going through a very difficult time in my romantic relationship with my boyfriend. He has asked for one week apart (no contact) to really think over things about our relationship. A part of me is fearful that he is contemplating ending things. But another part of me is hopeful that he just thinks that he needs this time to get things in perspective and allow both of us to calm down emotionally so we can move forward.

To put it bluntly, I’ve had a lot of horrible things happen to me in my life. Abuse, neglect, mistreatment, etc. And, as one can imagine, it’s left an indelible imprint on my mind. I’ve done just fine for myself in life, thus far, if you look at my personal success, and I’ve even achieved some measure of good emotional success. However, because there are soo many feelings underlying all these things, feelings that I haven’t dealt with and am only now beginning to deal with, it had wreaked absolute havoc on my current relationship.

I can do nothing to affect the outcome of my boyfriend’s feelings about our relationship except to absolutely respect his wishes to have time completely to himself. I intend to honor that – no emails, no texts, no phone calls, no IMs…nothing. However, I can, no matter what happens with us, begin my journey on the road to true self healing. What has happened in my relationship has opened my eyes in a whole new way, and for the first time, I feel that true, PERMANENT change is possible. And I do not wish to waste this opportunity.

And that’s why I’m here, because I believe a place like this can offer me the hope and encouragement that I will surely need along the way.

Thanks for taking the time to read :)

˚ I AM joy of clarity, being & doing  

Posted on 23/01/2010. Last edited on 24/01/2010.

In response to SweetStrongSoul’s post: Hello SweetStrongSoul!(: What a great name!!

Welcome to bmindful! Yes bmindful is a wonderful place. Between the loving people, the phenomenal tools exchanged, and a place just to be among trustworthy caring individuals..well you’re at a nice place to be you(:

I’m not sure how you were affected by the mistreatment you’ve endured along the way..Though I do, know we all are so much more than our experiences..And you’ll will find that out quickly (enough). (:

hi ,im fairly new myself and just wanted to say welcome .You will find lovely people on here who are so supportive andreally help with everything ,take care of yourself this week especially ,love flowergirl

Dear SSS,

I can tell that you are a very strong individual, so no matter what the outcome of your current relationship; please remember one thing everything happens for a reason and it is always a GOOD reason.

I know that sometimes it doesn’t seem that way, but it is always true.

Since you are the creator of your life, you create situations that will teach you what is the best way to handle anything. Life is a School and everyday is a lesson. When ever you get involved in a relationship, there will always be things to learn. I don’t know how old you are or how long you have been with this person and it really doesn’t matter.

The only thing that matters is for you love yourself and no matter what he decides you still love yourself and understand that what is meant to be will be. It is just the way of life to give us circumstances to overcome. Keep your head up and all will be perfect for you no matter what. You are a unique individual and if this relationship does not work out it is not because of something you did. It could be because he is not good enough for you and there is someone else who will make your life better. Keep the faith Baby.

Love Roxanne

Hugs to you SSS, It is wonderful to have open arms to come home to, but you must always be true to yourself. Take this great opportunity to really ask yourself if this relationship is good for you, your confidence, your growth, etc. Are there things that are not quite right about it? Allow yourself to really think and feel with your heart and love yourself. The universe may be opening a door you never would have approached before. Is it the door to greater love and understanding with this person or something else? Take good care of yourself, respectfully, Jan

Thank you all so much. All of your comments have really helped give me perspective. Thank you :)