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“I am focused and productive I avoid my time wasters”

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“You become what you teach. Once you have begun accepting responsibility for every part of your life, encourage your friends to do the same thing.

When people tell you about their problems and their frustrations, empathize with them and then remind them, “You are responsible”.

Perhaps one of the kindest things you can do for a true friend is to put that person back in touch with his or her own good sense by reminding him or her, that he or she is responsible.

When a person complains, respond by saying, “You are responsible”, what are you going to do about it?”

Don’t try to give advice. It’s probably not wanted and will be ignored anyway. Just listen. Be sympathetic. Then encourage that person to accept responsibility and get busy doing something about the situation.

At one time, my wife, Barbara, wanted to be a guidance counselor and eventually a psychologist or psychotherapist. She want to help people through their problems.

She would practice by spending many hours listening to her friends and counseling them the very best way that she could. She would try to give them her very best guidance and advice to help them deal with their difficulties.

Whenever I was involved in one of these “counseling sessions”, especially with her friends and coworkers, I would avoid all the hours of going back and forth dissecting the problem and simply cut to the core of the matter by saying, “You are responsible, what are you going to do about it?”

Barbara felt this was way too simplistic. She told me that I was not giving sufficient consideration to the complexities of the various situations these people were facing.

She was then astonished to see how many of her friends, after endless counseling sessions, actually went out and got themselves together. They took action, shortly after they had been told, in no uncertain terms, that, they were responsible, and that it was up to them to do something about the situation.

Barbara and I now have a joke around the house. When Barbara has lunch with a friend who has a problem, or some personal difficulty, I will ask her what she told the person.

She replies by saying, “I just gave her, ‘the advice’.”

It is much simpler, it works much better, and it is much easier on everyone involved. The advice is, “You are responsible, what are you going to do about it?”

Become your own psychotherapist by repeating to yourself, over and over,”I am responsible, I am responsible, I am responsible”.

Then, give the advice to others who have problems. Just say, “You are responsible, what are you going to do about it.”

Let them get on with the rest of there lives so you can get on with yours.”

Excerpted from, pp. 213-214 , “Maximum Achievement:Strategies and Skills That Will Unlock Your Hidden Powers To Succeed”, by Brian Tracy

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