Help me understand something.

I’m trying to step back from something that I believe is happening on bmindful and look at it from the outside. I’d like you guys to help me by stepping back and looking at it with me. I hope that I am completely wrong about this, but I think you’ll understand why I have some questions about something. There is a person on bmindful that doesn’t like me who goes by DB. Those of you who have been around the site for a while know what I am talking about. Now, I want to be very clear and I hope that I am wrong and I am not angry. I’m just curious and would like your thoughts. If you don’t know whether I am right or wrong I’d like those of you who do come on a good bit to pay attention for this and let me know what you think. What follows describes what I believe has been happening.

Not all of the time, and I only have one example at hand because I haven’t kept track of it, but often when I post something it is frequently followed with a new thread that is brought to the top of the forums and I get the feeling that it is a passive aggressive attack regarding something I have written. I may be wrong and I hope so. DB, feel free to clear this up immediately. I am not accusing you of anything, I’d like to believe that you are not doing what I have described, but it is a pattern that I have noticed. The only example I have right now has to do with a thread ez created that has to do with where thoughts come from. I wrote a long, drawn out, not well written ramble, but it wasn’t anything I feel ashamed of having written. You happened to come on and right after that thread you added a new thread with the song title “Some Things are Better Left Unsaid”. That, by itself wouldn’t stand out. But I’ve noticed that type of thing happening a lot. That is, I see that pattern. I write something, then there is a thread by you that seems to attack what I have written in a passive aggressive way. If you would like to address this, DB, please do so, but, I would sincerely appreciate it, and I believe so would everyone else, that if you address it that you do it in a direct, polite, peaceful and public way. I hope that I am wrong and would love to hear that from you and others. Given the things you have said about me on this site, I don’t think it would be fair to say that I am being paranoid. I’ve been noticing this for a while and I believe I have seen this pattern before not just with me, but with others on this site. I cannot and am not trying to speak for anyone else though.

I know this post sounds rather formal. It is not my normal style of writing, but in this case I believe this is the best way to say what I am saying. Again, I hope that I am wrong and I am sincerely not trying to offend anyone. I like this site and want to be free to be myself here without feeling that every time I write something I have to wait and see if I feel like I have been attacked in some way. I write this with an open heart to everyone on this site and I hope I am not offending DB either way. Whether I am right or wrong. Again, I hope that I am wrong. If what I believe I am observing is actually happening I would ask everyone to consider saying something to the new administrator about it. Again, I hope that I am wrong. No offense is intended.

Sincerely,
Jeff

reminds me of another sienfeld,(jerry says to george,“does everyone have to like you,not everybody likes everybody”...and george replies “yes everybody has to like me,I must be liked”...personally my feelings are if you can,t like me,at least try not to disrespect me on the public forum…you guys seem to have a history,that was friendly previously.For whatever reason you guys haven,t reconciled the issue with private emails.None of us are saints,I have a few flaws and defects of character.Perhaps as an example if Isreal and Palistine were able to step back and acknowledge to themselves what there part is in the creation of so much dislike,and look at there (side of the street)they could start the peace process…of course the two basic requirements for this are a desire for peace,and the capacity to honestly,see what part of there character there own character needs adjusting…just food for thought….....that,s how Reagan and Gorbajov ended the cold war,and nuclear arms race with the help of a truly great leader,Pierre Trudeau,another one of my heroes.

I LOVED that Seinfeld video you posted the other day, by the way. I like you. You have an easy way about you. I don’t feel like I’m DB’s enemy though. It’s not worth the energy to let myself be distracted by the motivations of others, but it’s kind of hard to ignore someone poking me in the chest all the time too. Is the only solution to leave here?

NO THAT,S NOT A GOOD SOLUTION.I,M NOT CHOOSING SIDES.I HAVE RESPECT FOR ALL PEOPLE ON THIS SITE,DB HAS CONTRIBUTED ALOT OF GOOD,INTELLIGENT,SPIRITUAL STUFF TO THE PEOPLE OF THIS SITE,I THINK THERE IS A PEACEFUL ANSWER,I HAVE AFEW THINGS TO DO IN THE NEXT FEW HOURS.I WILL EMAIL YOU PRIVATELY TONIGHT WITH SOME IDEAS.