I need help...

I am currently in a relationship and its great other than we dont have much time for one another cause of are schedules. Im finding myself doubting him and us and need some positive affirmations to concqure this…
He is amazing to me and I adore him to all means and dont want my negative thoughts to push him away!!

Please help….

From Louise Hay:

“I love and appreciate myself”

“I am in an amazing relationship with someone who truly loves me”

Goodluck Naomi :)

Nice to meet you Nicole, My name is Laurie. I have 2 questions, in re: to the situation with your boyfriend, if you don’t mind. Have you been in this relationship long? And has your boyfriend ever given you reason not to trust him?

Beyond that, if you know him very well and he has never given you a reason to mistrust him, then focus on, loving the quality of the love and not the *quantity (*meaning the actual time you are with one another).

How about the affirmation: I am loved and lovable. I am secure in myself, and worthy of all of the love that is demonstrated to me. The love I receive from my partner is enough, just the way it is. I accept the schedules we have, and progressively learn how to receive enough from my partner, whenever schedules permit. That’s all I can think of. Hope something helped.

Laurie,

Well here is the thing…. we dated for for four months and than he broke it off saying we werent connecting on a deeper level! No issues I lost his number. A month later he calls and makes a commitment saying he missed me and didnt realize what he had until I was gone.
It has been amazing since than but now… 1 1/2 months later, he wont return my phone calls, txt messages,and is short when we do talk…
It has only been 5 days but something feels wrong. Distant…
He has never given me a reason not to trust him, but I have been sketchy that i let him back in too easily….
I really enjoy his company and he is everything I look for in a man and would like to keep him around to see where it goes!
I really liked the affirmation you created for me and will use it tonight and in the morning!! I hope it works! Please let me know if you have any more ideas for me!!

Thanks,
Naomi

2009
Questions:What do you mean he made a commitment?

When you ask a direct question about his behavior, do you get an answer?

Not returning calls and text messages sounds like a red flag; especially when he claims there was not enough of a deep connection, the 1st time around.

If you get an opportunity to speak with him, ask him out to a very comfortable place for dinner; so you can really communicate. Look at both of your schedules some week and make one evening happen, so you can enjoy yourselves, and talk openly.

Trust is important, though without communication and consistency how can you trust? I can only go by the comments you’ve made, and these are things that come to mind.

We are in a commited relationship where we before we were just dating.

I agree it is a red flag, but I always try not to think the worst. He is a very busy person and hasnt been feeling well, but he has always made time for talking before. It seems odd but could be nothing so I dont want to give up yet.

Trust is very important and I think communication has a huge roll in that. We are meeting on Sunday, So I will talk to him about it than!

Am i being nieve??

2009
So what you mean by committed is neither of you are seeing anyone else, and he has told you this?

The idea of a red flag, isn’t always negative. It is simply something that appears questionable or confusing that you need clarification about.

Are you a busy person too? You haven’t been seeing one another for very, very long. Sometimes time of a relationship feels longer, because of great things you’ve shared.

If you really care for him, maybe find other things that interest you so he doesn’t take up too much of your life. And do so, not so you won’t miss him so much, but simply so you find other things rewarding than 1 person. This could give this relationship more time, to see the depth of it.

And him being busy and not feeling well isn’t a great combo; pressuring him for conversation probably isn’t such a great idea right now. Timing is also a factor. Glad you’ll get a chance to see him face to face on Sunday.

I say this all with respect. If you put all of your energies and interests in him, and if something isn’t ok with the relationship, it could be difficult. Always take great care of you, Nicole. OK? (smiles) The worst that can happen, if you’re taking care of you real well, is that you’ll be better for it in every important area in your life.

Speak to you soon.

Warm wishes, naomi_nichole! Keep your chin up, the world is full of endless possibilities.

I’ve been watching this thread at a distance for several days now. I haven’t commented until now as I was kind of watching how it played out – especially since it is Sunday.

Did the meeting go well? I have a couple of recommendations that come from experience. First, it does sound like a huge red flag to me. Text messages or phone calls only take a few seconds out of even the busiest person’s life. If he wants to get a hold of you, he will. This is not a positive or negative remark, it is simply a fact.

What to do in the meantime is very important. You need to work on yourself and focus on your interests. Sitting around waiting and pining for a love that is not returned will only drive you mad. ...and you are wasting precious time in your young life that could be spent on positive things. If all your focus is on this gentlemen, and he disappears out of your life again, then a huge chunk of your life is missing. However, if you develop other friendships and hobbies and he disappears, then you have other areas to concentrate and fall back on. If he stays, but is still a busy man – then you are busy with your own interests and the time spent away doesn’t seem so long in between.

Here is a little exercise that I recommend you to do. Take a sheet of paper and list all the qualities that you desire in a mate. Make it as long and specific as you can get – but it should be personal and meaningful to you. From this, you can create very specific affirmations for what you desire in your life when it comes to a relationship with your mate. Keep in mind, the universe is mysterious and maybe what you have in mind is not what is brought to you – because often it is even BETTER than what you asked for!!

Before you go to bed, meditate on this list. Create the feeling that it is something you already in your life. Hold that visualization and feel the emotions in your mind. Your intuition likes to talk to you at night. Maybe it has a message for you. It may come in the form of an “aha!” thought – or it may be a message in a dream. It may just be a feeling that you should go to a social event or such.

The first thing when you wake up, meditate on this list. Notice the synchronicities that happen during the day time. Do you meet someone new? Does the one you desire call?

Be patient. The universe works in its own time, which is always the right time. But, listen to your body. When your intuition tells you to act, ACT!

I cannot emphasize enough the necessity to cultivate your own life and interests. When you are doing what you love, your vibrational energy is raised. People tend to be attracted much like a magnet to those whose vibrational energies are at a higher level. (Think about your own life – do you like hanging around people who are always a downer?) Don’t rely on your happiness to come from someone else. You must take responsibility for that yourself and your own happiness. Sure, relationships are nice, but if your happiness is defined on whether or not they are successful, you could be in for a hard, sad life (or not).

I give these words out of love and a genuine desire for you to have peace in your life. I see you as my own daughter – who I would say the same thing to. They may not be what you want to hear – as I’m not too good at sugar-coating things – but I promise you that if you heed the advice, you will be a much happier woman – regardless of what happens with this gentleman.

Warmest regards, MM