How is forgiveness a #1 tool in your life?
Great thread Laurie, forgiveness is such an important virtue for all of us to practice and each of us needs to continually reaffirm our commitment to forgive those who have harmed, wronged or betrayed us. We also need to forgive ourselves for any part we have played.
The first step is our willingness to forgive, but sometimes we may not know how. We may begin by simply affirming . “I am willing to forgive” This simple act of intention can open the door of hearts and free us to slowly begin the process of healing and letting love back inside and returning to a sense of wholeness within ourselves .
Sometimes this may take some time and so we need to be patient with ourselves, and the process . We still need to maintain our commitment to forgiveness.
This can further lead the way to “process affirmations”, which will slowly replace our anger, hurts and resentments. I especially like the love letter technique. John Gray relates this in his book, “Men are from Mars Women are from Venus”, and also further in his other books. Louise Hay is a good source for information on forgiveness as many us are aware. The spiritual traditions all instruct us to forgive.
Thank you for reminding me that I need to write a letter . I have been mindfully waiting until my spirit had more peace and my intention was loving. Thank you for this post.
hi db thanks for your words on forgiveness .Its come at the right time ,on monday its 3 years since my kids dad died ,we split up 12 years ago but had stayed freinds .We thought the world of each other but differed on discipline – he was very strict and also very rough .I adore my kids and find it so hard to forgive myself for loving him ,,me and the kids can forgive him – they are adults now and we can see it was how he was brought up .
i have the idea to write a letter ,tie it to a balloon and let it go on monday ,one to him and one to myself Its time i forgave myself
Today I forgive myself for:
breaking any of my own rules.
Today I forgive myself for:
not hearing myself amongst the chatter of others
Today I forgive myself for:
not knowing how to make someone else well.
Today I forgive myself for:
not getting started on a priority when it screamed out to me before.
An all-inclusive prayer of forgiveness is this:
I forgive everything, everyone, every experience. Every memory of the past or present that needs forgiveness. I forgive positively everyone. God is love, and I am forgiven and governed by God’s love alone. God’s love is now adjusting my life and it’s problems. Realizing this, I abide in peace.
Catherine Ponder ~ The Dynamic laws of Healing…
Technique of Forgiveness ~
“Here is a simple but effective method to bring about forgiveness in yourself. It will work wonders in your life as you practice it. Quiet your mind, relax and let go. Think of God and his love for you, and then affirm:
I fully and freely forgive, (think of the name of the offender). I release her/him mentally and spirtually. I completely forgive everything connected with the matter in question. I am free and she/he is free. It is a marvelous feeling.
This is my day of genral amnesty. I release anybody and everybody who has ever hurt me, and I wish for each and everyone health, happiness and peace, and all the blessings in life. I do this freely, joyously, and lovingly.
Whenever I think of the person or persons who hurt me, I say. “I have released you, and all the blessings of life are yours.” I am free and they are free . It is wonderful!”
Dr Joseph Murphy ~ The Power of Your Subconscious Mind
In response to db…‘s post:
The one that resonates with me..the best, is the one by Catherine Ponder.
Nice posts(:
I really enjoy Catherine Ponder, especially the book The Dynamic Laws of Prayer
Forgiveness Technique ~
Writing, speaking and listening to forgiveness affirmations are all effective ways to begin the process of forgiveness.
You can use the ones below or create your own. Always remember to say what you want to be true as if it is already true.
I forgive myself completely for every mistake I have ever made.
I forgive others, knowing that we all did the best we could at that time.
I let go of guilt, blame, shame, judgment, and hurt.
I am free from condemnation.
I forgive my parents completely.
I forgive everyone who did not give me the love and attention I desired.
I forgive myself for my unconscious behaviors of the past.
I forgive others theirs as well.
I allow myself to feel forgiven and to move forward in life.
If there is something or someone you are still having a hard time letting go of, ask God for help.
Maybe it is time to ask God, Jesus, Mary, Buddha or whomever you chose to sit with you, while you consciously forgive yourself or another.
Feel that Presence holding your hand, reminding you that you are whole, perfect and complete. “I love you just the way you are and
Next, call to mind anyone that you need to forgive but who you have not been able to.
What you cannot do, God can. Imagine that person right there with you and tell that person whatever you need to tell them in order to forgive them.
Now, bring up anything bad that you have done that you may feel guilty about. Ask for forgiveness and in asking, feel the love that surrounds you. God gently reminds you,
“You are my beloved. It is gone. You are free. You are not guilty.
You do not need those bad feelings anymore.
Release them and let them go.” Take a deep breath and say “I’m free! I am forgiven. I am at peace.”
And it is done…Now, bring up anything bad that you have done that you may feel guilty about.
Ask for forgiveness and in asking, feel the love that surrounds you. God gently reminds you, “You are my beloved. It is gone. You are free. You are not guilty. You do not need those bad feelings any more.
Release them and let them go.” Take a deep breath and say “I’m free! I am forgiven. I am at peace.
And it is done…
from, “The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity”, based on the book by Edwene Gaines
I am kind, loving, caring and forgiving.
I have inner joy and peace
I am focused on the present
My thoughts are positive, forgiving and loving